Member: Kim V
Location: kvaughn@madison.main.nc.us
Date: March 23, 2003
Time: 09:21 AM

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Kim V here alcoholic. I remember a time when I was not willing to do anything but continue to be self destructive, and that is all I accomplished. I had a very low bottom. At first I had to pray for WILLINGNESS> I think what happened to me is after praying for willingness for awhile, all of a sudden my self pity disappeared. I no longer felt sorry for myself. I no longer blamed everyone else. I grew up, like over night and was able to act responsible and be accountable for my actions. I under went a complete pychic change. I have been well on my way to recoverying and working the steps ever since and have almost 7 years now. Willingness is one of the key ingredience. Thanks for letting me share.


Member: A meeting for
Location: the Newcomer
Date: March 23, 2003
Time: 07:04 PM

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Date: March 23, 2003
Time: 07:05 PM

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Member: Dennis K
Location: PA
Date: March 23, 2003
Time: 07:43 PM

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Hi, Dennis K, alcoholic. Willingness - interesting topic. First thing that comes to mind is 30 days ago when I was finally able to give my will and life over to God. Have been sober since and loving life! So I guess I was finally willing to stop doing my own will and let God into my life. I pray every morning and night and many times in between for God to take over my will and my life so I may do His will. I now know God is with me (my co-pilot) and it is amazing how often I feel His presence. I am a very grateful recovering alcoholic. Thanks for letting me share. Let's go for another 24 sober hours.


Member: SuzyQ
Location: New Jersey
Date: March 24, 2003
Time: 10:00 AM

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When I am unwilling I am miserable. SuzyQ


Member: L-RAY
Location: SCOTLAND
Date: March 24, 2003
Time: 01:07 PM

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When I became willing to let God into my life then i was ready to live my life with this program< my will was running riot so by handing it over to my H.P. it became easier" so Gods will be done! have a nice day! regards L-Ray


Member: Joe G
Location: Texas
Date: March 24, 2003
Time: 03:09 PM

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I'm just trying to stay sober today.


Member: Trey M
Location: TX
Date: March 24, 2003
Time: 07:42 PM

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I keep praying, "God grant me the willingness to be willing to be willing". That's all I can do today. I am one week sober. Please put in an extra prayer for me - I need all the help I can get. And it's not easy for me to ask for help.


Member: Victor M
Location: nyc
Date: March 24, 2003
Time: 08:07 PM

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Willingness is single most important thing that I, as a sober alcoholic, can have. It's the key to a design for living that works. It's also an action because once I've made a decision to turn my will over to a power greater than myself, I need to follow that decision up with what that higher power wills for me, and that is to do the next 9 steps. And they're tough and alot of work and they go against every alcoholic fiber in my being. THAT'S why I have to have Steps 1,2 and 3 down cold. So that when I get stuck on my 4th step, or on a character defect, or on a ammends I need to make but don't want to, I can look back and remember that I made an informed decision to turn my will (which kept me drunk , miserable, alone, hopeless, etc ) over to the care (that's CARE, not vengeance) of a higher power which at the very least can perform the miracle of keeping me, a daily, blackout, fall down drunk sober- but may very well be, based on the miracles I've seen, the creative and loving force in the universe. My will or God's? Tough choice, but it gets easier as my life gets more and more amazing. Thanks Thanks for letting me share


Member: JASON L.
Location: PENNSYLVANIA
Date: March 24, 2003
Time: 08:36 PM

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hello,jason l here,addict alcoholic,and i just wanted to say that this is my second time through being sober for a period of time longer then a month,and for me willingness didnt come easy.events had to happen for me to be willing enough to want to do all of this again.if those events didnt happen,i cant say for sure that i would be here typing this right now!!1


Member: Kelly M
Location: NH
Date: March 25, 2003
Time: 01:05 AM

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Hi Kelly an alcoholic. When I think of willingness I always think of something my father said. Are you ready, willing, and able? The 3 do go together well. In AA they say that willingness is the key. If you are having a hard time turning your will over to the care of God or your higher power you need to be willing. Once the key of willingness has been placed in the lock the door opens slightly. It will continue to open although self will may slam it shut again, as it frequently does, it will always respond the moment we pick up the key of willingness. 12x12 pg. 35. Willingness is also another kind of key. It is a trait I find in successful people in general. People who are willing to take a chance in business or life for success or happiness. If they were not willing to stick their necks out and put 110 percent into what they were trying to accomplish they may have failed. I have that willingness now to go to whatever lengths to stay sober. I hand over my will and life to the care of God every day. I work a hard AA program and the door is opening more everyday. The hardest part of a thousand mile journey is the first step. Kelly


Member: AZbill
Location: From AZbill
Date: March 25, 2003
Time: 09:46 AM

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Hi Bill here, alcoholic from Arizona. Nice share Kelly. When I stepped into these rooms, I had good reason not to believe AA would work for me. Then a gentleman took me outside and told me that you all could see that I was sick; and you all could get me well. He also said, the only thing I am going to have to do is change the way I think about alcohol, and you all are going to teach you how to do that. That is the psychic change mentioned in "The Doctor's Opinion". I was willing to try. So with me sober some 7 days and my "sponsor" and good friend and drinking buddy was sober one day got together and started on this miraculous journey. The blind leading the blind? Maybe. But that was a long time and several sponsors ago and we are both sober today. As Kelly so wisely pointed out, this willingness carried over to other areas of my life. I attended college. And was willing to do whatever necessary. That meant to me.. hiring tutors (Sponsors?) for every major exam. I graduated at age 55, took two boards, past them. Went into the field of study and am published in two medical journals. That was the first time in my life I took something from beginning to the end without knowing the result. And all it took was just a little willingness. But that was essential. Thank you for being a part of my sobriety today. Bill az-bill@mindspring.com


Member: Trish K.
Location: So.California Desert
Date: March 26, 2003
Time: 01:17 AM

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Trish here alcholic - I am willing -- at least I am on the surface. Still waiting for lightening bolts and revalations.... I really want this inner peace - joyous, happy and free -- but what ever it is about my personality -- that wall that's built so strong and deep inside just won't let any hope/belief in.... So I continue along - fake it until you make it... or some such slogan I hear at meetings. 110 days sober - willing and waiting.


Member: Gage
Location: La
Date: March 26, 2003
Time: 02:56 AM

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I'm Gage, an alcoholic. I don't think I knew whether I was an alcoholic, an astronaut, or Adam's housecat when I came to AA. I couldn't start with step 1, I had to start with step -1, which for me amounted to three things: I didn't take a drink even if I had to call someone to come sit on me to avoid it, I started meeting with a group of sober alcoholics on a regular basis, and I washed the coffee pots after every meeting. That's it. For the first few months, maybe more, that was pretty much all I could do. I think it was the willingness to do it, though, that finally got me to step 1. And that took me to step 2, and then 3, and so on. I still wash the coffee pots because nobody has told me to stop. I am not any smarter, luckier, or better looking than any of you, and there is not a single one of you who can't do this. Peace be with you.


Member: T-Bone
Location: S.Fla
Date: March 26, 2003
Time: 06:06 AM

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Gage, cajun words of wisdom. Thanks. T-Bone


Member: Hamish
Location: Sydney, Australia
Date: March 26, 2003
Time: 09:54 AM

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Hi, Hamish, Alcoholic I was told early on that you only have to be "be willing to be willing". I was willing and so far so good - ONE DAY AT A TIME. Keep an open mind,go to meetings,don't pick up the first drink one day at a time and you can't get drunk. AA is a programme for living and AA works, but you have to want it.Short postage but full of all the fundamentals that have saved my life. Keep coming back, the people that stay sober are those people that get a Higher Power or God in their lives and keep going to meetings regularly.Love and prayers to all. Hamish. Joe and Trey from TX my prayers are with you both - keep coming back.


Member: kathy k.
Location: Northeast
Date: March 27, 2003
Time: 05:28 AM

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Member: Maggie
Location: IL
Date: March 27, 2003
Time: 08:29 AM

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Hi all,Maggie, alcoholic. They say, stick with the winners. Thanks Gage, AZbill and Landscape Ray (wherever you are)Your words speak volumes. It's people like you who keep people like me hanging around. Love to all. Maggie


Member: LT
Location: SD
Date: March 27, 2003
Time: 10:28 AM

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Hi Lisa Alcoholic, I wish I were more willing sometimes, it wouldn't hurt so bad to change. Then I would have this life down pat, and wouldn't have to change.. ugh. When I got here I didn't think I could stay sober a day out of treatment. I was afraid to leave. I was willing as the dying could be (12x12 step 1), but I was so afraid it wouldn't work for me. My higher power did for me what I couldn't do for myself. I went to the meetings (I went to NA, Cause I heard the AA's were judgemental, after 3 months of that I had to go to AA to stay sober.. thank God my Higher Power saw me through that).I screwed up my life royally the first months in the program. I let go of my good job, my apt, got back with my addict boyfriend, became pregnant, decided to travel the world in a moter home (I deserved not to work I had worked so hard all my life <g> ). But I still went to meetings. 4 months sober I was a mess, I called one of those sponsers that I never called before, thought she would reject me cause I hadn't called her.. She didn't , I started on the road to happy destiny..I had a long road to haul, but my Higher Power gave me the willingness, strength and courage to reach out , work the steps, change etc . Something I had tried to do on my own for years prior to sobriety.. He won't let you down... (under 300 words right? I still don't deal well with rejection)


Member: Katie G.
Location: Maryland
Date: March 27, 2003
Time: 03:37 PM

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Hey this is Katie and I'm an Alcholic . Haven't been on this site for a while. But staying sober ( a hard job yet a liveable one) Willingness hmmm.... I belive I have the willingness to go to my A.A. groups and class sessions . Finding new places to hang out and not be around be who drink is a hard things . I got in an accident 8 days before my 23rd birthday and I thank god everyday that I lived to see every day that passes . Now I am two months sober and it's a long and hard struggle but it is possible .(Willingness). Thank you for letting me share .


Member: Melanie
Location: Akron, Ohio, USA
Date: March 27, 2003
Time: 11:26 PM

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Hi, I'm Melanie an alcoholic. Willingness has saved my life. I was so beaten by alcohol that I went to treatment willing to do anything to stop drinking. I didn't care if it was brainwashing, electric shock, hourly enemas or anything horrible you can think of. I was done! I wanted OUT! Thankfully, after some medication and therapy, I was told, "Now go to AA, find a sponsor, and do what they tell you." I took a couple days rest, then hit local AA meetings daily. I went willingly and took suggestions from those who seemed happy and serene. Willingness to listen, look at myself, seek God's help and change ME. Sure beats an enema! Love and blessings to all!


Member: Peter W
Location: Texas
Date: March 28, 2003
Time: 10:06 AM

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This has been a great meeitng and I've heard some really goo things. Willingness is mentioned three times in Chapter 2 of the Big Book "There is A Solution" (notice that it doesn't say that there are two, or three, or five solutions :))Here are some things to remember: "If you are as seriously alcoholic as we were, we believe there is no middle-of-the-road solution. We were in a position where life was becoming impossible, and if we had passed into the region from which there is no return through human aid, we had but two alternatives: One was to go on to the bitter end, blotting out the consciousness of our intolerable situation as best we could; and the other, to accept spiritual help. This we did because we honestly wanted to, and were WILLING to make the effort." "But this man still lives, and is a free man. He does not need a bodyguard nor is he confined. He can go anywhere on this earth where other from men may go without disaster, provided he remains WILLING to maintain a certain simple attitude." "The distinguished American psychologist, William James, in his book "Varieties of Religious Experience," indicates a multitude of ways in which men have discovered God. We have no desire to convince anyone that there is only one way by which faith can be acquired. If what we have learned and felt and seen means anything at all, it means that all of us, whatever our race, creed, or color are the children of a living Creator with whom we may form a relationship upon simple and understandable terms as soon as we are WILLING and honest enough to try." I hope that these passages help you to direct your willingness for the next 24 Hours. I will keep all of you in my prayers.


Member: Cindy O
Location: Minnesota
Date: March 28, 2003
Time: 12:37 PM

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Cindy here, brand new to AA today. Alcoholic and tired of it running my life. Don't know how to stop but know I need help. So I thought I would start here...any suggestions?


Member: Deb C
Location: Beautiful Boston USA!
Date: March 28, 2003
Time: 12:58 PM

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Hi..Deb, addict alcoholic. Cindy O, get down on your knees and ask for help. Ask anyone or anything..the universe. Just ask a power bigger than yourself to keep you away from a drink, to take the obsession from you, and try to remember to stay in contact with this higher power. Try to be thankful and grateful that you are not drunk right now. I will pray for you.


Member: Cindy O
Location: Minnesota
Date: March 28, 2003
Time: 01:05 PM

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Hi Deb I appreciate your prayers. Is this board going to be enough? Or what? I'm scared and don't know what to do except that I WANT to stop SO bad.


Member: AZbill
Location: From AZbill
Date: March 28, 2003
Time: 01:37 PM

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Hi Cindy. Here is what I would like you to try. Call Alcoholics Anonymous listed in the white or yellow pages. Come into AA. Work the program precisely the way the first 100 men and women did. Keep it simple. Do exactly what it tells you to do in the first 164 pages. Lay aside all other reading for a while. Try to find a sponsor, preferably a female, that is willing to teach you directly from "Alcoholics Anonymous" Make that your highest priority day by day and see what happens. You are at the point where you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I will repeat time after time.... Read, study, and work the basic program as precisely written in our beloved big book. The first statement in the 5th Chapter tells us "Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path". It will work if you work it hard enough. It has worked for millions, a lot of them worse off than you are at the moment. These online groups are handy but in the beginning it is far better to go to face to face meetings as well Bill: az-bill@mindspring.com


Member: Kelly M
Location: NH
Date: March 28, 2003
Time: 01:44 PM

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Hi Cindy, I don't think this board is enough for me. It is a big help though. First of all if you want to stop drinking you need to call the AA hotline. They can give you the name of a meeting in your area. Please go and ask for help. Ask for a temporary sponsor and a meeting list of all your local meetings. Go to a meeting a day and listen. Get phone numbers in case you need to talk or need a ride. This is what I did and It worked well. And of course, don't drink! Good Luck and God Bless, Kelly


Member: Cindy O
Location: Minnesota
Date: March 28, 2003
Time: 01:50 PM

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Cindy O here again, Alcoholic. Thank-you very much for the advise. I am taking it to heart and getting to a meeting. It makes sense to me that "Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path". I am totally afraid and ashamed it has gone this far but I know I can't go on this way. I am sober right now but always afraid of the next urge because I just can't stop on my own. I think I've completeded the first step, so now I'll go to a meeting tonight. I'll stop back in tonight and post. Thank-you for your prayers. I need them.


Member: Gage
Location: La
Date: March 29, 2003
Time: 04:38 AM

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I'm Gage, an alcoholic. Cindy O, I hope you are doing okay this morning, that you made it to that meeting, and that you found some friends there. As for this site, several people have quoted from our book, Alcoholics Anonymous, to you; I want to quote another line from it, that I thought about when I read your question. It says: "We shall be with you in the Fellowship of the Spirit, and you will surely meet some of us as you trudge the Road of Happy Destiny." I've noticed this passage doesn't say "the Road TO Happy Destiny". It says "the Road OF Happy Destiny". I think the meaning of this might be, then, that this path isn't something that leads to some great event. The great event is getting on the path itself. After that, it's a process. Anyway, that's how it seems to me. Having friends, and trying to be a friend in the Fellowship, can surely help the process along. So, welcome, friend! Welcome to all of you, friends. Peace to all. (Hi, T-Bone, Hi, Maggie.)


Member: Donna Park
Location: Graceville, Fl
Date: March 29, 2003
Time: 09:04 AM

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Donna, alcoholic. Willingness for me started when I could begin to think I had a problem with drinking, Then willing to try & do something about it. Willing to go to a meeting. Willingness to continue going to meeting. Willing to listen to what people were telling me & try some of their suggestions. Willing to ask for help. Something that I did not want to do. Willing to get a sponsor. Willing to call & use that sponsor. Each step I had to become willing to do. I remain willing to help others where possible, to get involved in service. To continue to look at my defects, and talk to others when I hurt, willing to realize this is a journey not a destination. Willing to continue being active. To the best of my ability to practice these principles in all my affairs. Willingness is a tool that is major in my program. Thanks


Member: Landscape Ray
Location: SCOTLAND
Date: March 29, 2003
Time: 10:04 AM

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Cindy O--hope your meet went ok and you wernt to confused, the more you do the easier it becomes be safe, Maggie Hi! Hi Gage!


Member: Gage
Location:
Date: March 29, 2003
Time: 10:17 AM

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Hi L-Ray, hi, Kelly. (This is sounding a little like The Waltons, ain't it? "Night, Elizabeth.")


Member: CindyO
Location: Minnesota
Date: March 29, 2003
Time: 02:47 PM

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CindyO here Alcoholic. Made through the night without the drink. Amazing. Went to a meeting but did not say a single word other than my name. Gusee that's a start. When I read the notes from other people it actually seems to help. I liked the willingness stuff. I'm kinda stubborn so it looks hard from here. Then I read the note from Gage about the Road OF Happy Destiny. Would you do me a favor when you quote and put the page number in? I have the big book on line and someone gave me one last night. Thanks to you all for caring about me.


Member: Anne K
Location: Boston
Date: March 29, 2003
Time: 04:18 PM

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Hi everyone, I am in the same boat as Cindy O. Got drunk again and made a fool of myself. Everytime I go out now I seem to get drunk. I am sick of this. I called AA and am going to go to a meeting tonight. I hate the thought of going - and I really don't want to talk - at least not yet. What is the first meeting like? Does someone interview you or do you just listen to a speaker. Also in one way I hate having to stop drinking as most of my buddies are part of that scene although they are all controlled drinkers except for one who is maybe worse than me. I am just thinking it will be very hard to go out and just drink soda. I don't want to sound negative and I am going to the meeting. I am sure it is very hard for everyone at the beginning. The fact is I don't think I am an actual alcoholic as much as a problem drinker.


Member: Kelly M
Location: NH
Date: March 29, 2003
Time: 05:38 PM

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Hi ((Anne)), Way to go on trying a meeting! You do not get interviewed or have to speak other than your first name at some. Just sit back and listen, have a coffee. If you see a woman that looks happy/ approachable, go introduce yourself and say this is your first meeting. She will answer all your questions and maybe give you her number. I go to my favorite meeting tonight and brought a woman last week that went up and got her 24 hour chip. That is optional too. Annie called me this morning and asked for a ride again and really enjoyed it. It takes a few to get in the hang of it and some you will like better than others. In Boston you must have so many to choose from! I would not worry about whether or not you think you are an alcoholic or not just yet. Get to some meetings and then you can decide. Be sure and come back and let us all know how it went. ((Cindy O))Great on going to a meeting! It is ok to be quiet and just listen. The only requirement in AA is a desire to stop drinking, that's it. I'm stubborn too and it can actually be an asset. Hey ((Gage)) I have a coffee job now and I think it is kind of theraputic. I'm also a treasurer and they even trusted me enough to give me my own key... Pretty Cool! Take Care All, Kelly


Member: Kerry C
Location: TX
Date: March 29, 2003
Time: 11:29 PM

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Cindy O, You seem to have willingness to me. You were willing to post here asking for help. You were willing to listen to those suggestions. You were willing to go to a meeting. And most important...You were willing not to take a drink last night. Looks like a good start from here...Keep Coming Back