Member: Bruce
Location: Ontario, Canada
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 09:18:34

Comments

Hi, I'm an alcoholic and my name is Bruce. I would like to hear about sponsorship this week. Both what it is like to have a sponsor, and how you use yours, as well as what it is like to be a sponsor, and how it helps you through the program. May you all be blessed with another 24 hours of sobriety. Have a great week!!!


Member: Ted B.
Location: Montreal
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 09:20:07

Comments

I'm Ted and I'm an alcoholic. I'd like to hear about other members' experience in balancing their lives inside and outside of AA. I haven't been doing as many meetings as I should lately because of a hectic personal and professional schedule, as well as out of my own longstanding character defects of laziness and apathy. At other times, when I feel I MUST get to a meeting, I'll postpone a family or work-related event, often to the chagrin of relatives, friends or co-workers or supervisors who are less than enlightened about AA and its importance to me. How do you achieve and maintain a balance between the two? Thanks.


Member: fayla   g
Location: galena  ks
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 11:02:01

Comments

FAYLA ,ALCOHOLIC ,sponsership and balance ,go hand in hand to me ,as for meetings i havent been to one all week and i can tell it ,if i want to make this work i half to go to meetings or i start going backward instead of forward ,my sponser helps me keep things balanced out where i can face them and deal with them ,my brother just told me your mind is a dangerest place ,dont go in there alone . love and hope to all .fayla g


Member: Barbara G.
Location: N. Calif.
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 14:44:07

Comments

Hi eveyone My name is Barbara and IAM AN ALCHOLIC, Iam now 7 days sober after a 1and a half year if drinking. Prior to that I maintained 5 yrs of continious sobriety. It is very difficult right now for me I am sicker than ever . Finding this site has been a gift. I am going to a meeting every day. 90n 90 is my goal. I knew so many people who chose to drink and never made it back. My expierence makesa me afraid of not staying. But I just dont want to die


Member: Jim R.
Location: Chicago
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 16:18:12

Comments

Hi, my name is Jim and I'm sober today throught he grace of my higher power and program.

Welcome back Barbara. I can relate to you, because I too had five years of being dry (not true sobriety), then five years out there, before I came back to A.A. The good part is that your back.

About sponsership... I recomend finding someone with some solid sobriety, who you could relate to, to help you through the steps if need be. I never had a sponser the first time around, thought I could work the program by myself and get better results... just like me handling everything by myself... this time around it's different. I rely on God, the program, and the wisdom of my sponser to help me as much as they can... I do not hold my sponser up on a pedestal, however. I know he is a drunk just like me... but I truly value his sobriety and advice, and he benefits from me too, that's how it works.

I also feel balancing A.A. and personal life is vital to my sobriety. At the beginning of my sobriety, I needed more meetings. When things aren't going well, I still need alot of meetings... but the key is that I spend as much time and energy with my family as I do with my A.A. family. We need to take what we learn in the fellowship and apply it to all aspects of our lives. My family, and even my employer, understands, that without God and the program, I wouldn't have a clue on how to keep all the plates spinning. Keep coming back. It works if you work it sober.


Member: john mc
Location: herts uk
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 17:29:14

Comments

hi john mc here. when asked how would you pick a sponsor,john.i replied"if he's got 5yrs or more sobriety,and i like what he says".call me niave,but i was shocked by the reply."how do you know he's telling the truth".you'd have to live with him to no know for sure.fortunately for me the man asking the questions was& still is of the type described on pp18 b/book .without whom little or nothing can be achieved.read the book.


Member: Kevin S
Location: Ireland
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 20:30:59

Comments

Would I be here if I were not an alcoholic.

This evening my road to recovery began, and already it seems uphill.

I worry about what I will be like sober. I'm clinically depressed already and I know I'll be much worse. Will it be even harder for my wife and two sons to live with me. I'm 32 and in big trouble.

When I'm not drinking I'm working and when I'm not working or drinking I'm miserable.

My father and his father were alcoholics like me.

I never knew them as they could have been, and in the same way I fear knowing myself as I really am. Drinking, for me is usually a solitary affair, not something to overcome shyness, etc, but an escape from everything.

I have physical addiction symptoms now because of years of abuse but I worry that because alcohol is merely a chemical, that the problems in my mind are merely chemical and that there is no other fix.


Member: skip R
Location: Mass
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 21:18:23

Comments

balance is great topic. For me I need as many meeting that i can get to . be cause i drank daily so sometimes i need a daily meeting. Also for me if Ido not AA I have no balance at all sign keep it simple


Member: Holly D.
Location: Aberdeen, Maryland
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 21:47:46

Comments

Hi Family, I'm Holly and I am a grateful alcoholic. I am in the Army so moving to and from different places, sometimes I feel it is difficult to really connect, however, going to lots of meetings really makes me feel at "home" wherever I am. I too really have to watch my balance with life stuff and meeting stuff. However, as a friend of mine back home says, "I only need one meeting a week, but I'm not sure which one so I go to one every day." I figure, I could spend more than a hour a day drinking, so I can certainly devote an hour of my day to staying sober. And to Barabara, welcome back. I too had a slip after a 1 and half of being on a will filled, dry drunk, however, with God's grace I will celebrate 2 years of new sobriety in November. I too am so blessed to have made it back in. So keep coming, everyone!!! THID REALLY WORKS!

love to all


Member: Angie S
Location: Canada
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 22:23:50

Comments

Wow, i can relate to all of your comments! As far as a sponsor they say look for the winners! Who are they the old times - ones with long term sobriety. My sponsor has 25 years she has been around and knows the ropes! As far as not going to enough meetings because I am lazy and self center and find it hard to social i am in that category! It seems so much easier to hide! I guess it boils down to fear! I was told if I have fear I don't have faith! I am sure this is true and it scares me! But someone is watching out for us or we wouldn't be here. Think of all the other out there who don't even know but we have been picked to LIVE!

So Kevin hang in there! Your worth it! So is your family! You can't do it for them u must do it for yourself. My parents were alcholic too but I have learnt not to blame them we have a choice whether we pick up the First Drink! Don't Kevin!


Member: JC
Location: DE
Date: 26 Jul 1998
Time: 22:32:54

Comments

I'm 34 and sober, wow, I never thought it would be like this. After drinking heavy and regularly for 5 years, I woke up. Now, sober since March, I have found feelings and interest that have been lost and forgotten. What energy I now have, I want it all,, and then some. I never thought I could get through a weekend,holiday or take a vacation sober. But I have , and I like it!! My family was dying because of me and my drinking. What support I have received and happyness that has come back into my life. Because of this program , AA, I have not only been able to stay sober but I also know I never want to drink again.


Member: Andy
Location: Vermont
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 00:01:11

Comments

I'm Andrea, I'm an alchoholic.

Great Topics and comments, Barbara and Kevin keep coming, we need you.

I need a sponsor to tell me what's real, to tell me what to do, to point out to me who I am. As an alcholic I tried hard to shade out all those things I didn't want to face life on life's terms...my sponsor and sponsees help me figure out what's going on in my life....I got much to good at lieing to myself, to good at projecting pretending ...my sponsor can reel me in.

Thank-you


Member: rob o
Location: minnesot, usa
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 02:23:10

Comments

Hi! I'm Rob, and I am an alcoholic. I just got internet access this week, and I had heard about these online meetings. I think it's really cool, being able to share with AA brothers and sisters from throughout the world! The AA fellowship is truly a family, even when we are thousands of miles apart. I mainly want to offer some encouragement to kevin from ireland. I too am a third generation alcoholic. I was lucky to get into treatment quite young. My first year, I was a mess. I was incredibly depressed, and nothing seemed to help. I have since began taking an antidepresent medication. This, along with meetings has helped me to attain four years of sobriety. So, there is help, you don't have to be depressed and suicidal. Hang in there buddy, you'll make it!!!


Member: Bonnie C
Location: Seattle
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 06:37:04

Comments

Hi extended family, bonnie/alcoholic here, (((ROOM-HUG))) good topics ((bruce)) sponsorship ((ted b)) balance, first of all SPONSORSHIP - when I first got here I had no answers nor processes to work out my problems, I had 3 sponsors in my first yr, 1 I fired, 1 fired me and one I kept for 13 yrs, this one worked my butt off, she gave me her time and wouldnt let me use the word but. She gave me things to do and I did them, when I didnt want to do as she suggested she told me to call someone else for she didnt have time to waste giving me suggestions i wasnt going to take, she saved my very self centered life by being hard on me. my decisions had always bought me trouble. - on being a sponsor, I try never to sponsor more than one at a time, for I try to be there, i have only sponsored maybe a dozen people in 18yrs. one I have sponsored for 17 yrs, talked with her tonight, shes in San Diego, have a guy friend in New York that I bounce stuff off of, especially getting the male perspective on things, we are 6months apart in sobriety date, we have studied this program together, just a buddy that never went beyond that, the first man woman relationship that has always remained just friends, hes a true brother today, thank you God. BALANCE - if I dont make my sobriety and mental well being the main priority, I have no life or balance. Dear God please bless all who venture here. love and hugs, bon


Member: Mark L
Location: Staten Island
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 07:44:28

Comments

Hi Mark L. Alcoholic. Just wanted to say that today I have alot of Gratitude.,and alot of love for all you people in this room . You all help me stay sober

Thanks


Member: Gary V
Location: Boston
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 08:59:46

Comments

Hi, I'm Gary, an alcoholic. This is the first time I've said or written that. I have 24 hrs of sobriety and really had to look at things closely for a few months first. This is a great topic, sponsorship and balance. It helps someone like me to understand the process. I've been reading alot and getting info. from rooms like this. I go to meetings, but they're court ordered, and I really have now decided to take advantage of the program. I still analyze things like sponsorship, whether I need to do the steps, whether I need meetings after the probation is up. Keep the info. coming. You can't believe how helpful it is to someone like me...or maybe you can. I find it helpful almost to reverse the situation and ask myself "why drink ?" Instead of "why stop ?" After I couldn't think of any reason to drink, I decided that was it. Probably a goofy thought process but since it was a breakthrough for me, maybe it'll help somebody.


Member: tony g
Location: ma
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 09:13:01

Comments

ive been going to the same meeting for about 5 mnths. God will always be my main sponcer but this morning im going to meeting and im going to ask my friend jim what he thinks. hes been at it for some time now,ill put some trust in him im sure hell help me out. anyway im putting one foot in front of the other one day at a time and i feel like im actually getting somewhere.


Member: maureen
Location: florida
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 09:19:08

Comments

hi i am maureen and i am a alcholic i will be coming up on a few years soon but i somewhere along the line forgot how good and necessary a sponsor is. when i first became sober i had a wonderful sponsor and after some time i just stopped calling her and now i find that i am out there by myself and not really doing the things i should like going to meetings as often. i still get down on my keens every morning and evening to thank God for his help. this is a great subject even for the people who have some time under their belt. i realize htat i must get a sponsor to stay sober for one thing i do know is that i never never want to be the way i was.


Member: Rich H.
Location: Ma.
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 09:23:39

Comments

Hi my name is Richard and I am an alcoholic.Great Topics. My first sponser was a good freind of mine who had 3 years in the program One day I just showed up at his work place and told him I was going to meetings and newly sober. I didn't even realize he had become my sponser untill an old timer we saw at meetings refered to him as my sponser.My next sponser was (and still is) a guy who I just saw at meetings and who said things that just made sense to me.Great to hear from newcomers and people coming back If it will work for me it will work for anybody. Have a great sober 24 hours! Keep Coming .


Member: Barbara G.
Location: Northern Cal.
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 13:01:34

Comments

Hi eveyone, MY NAME IS BARBARA AND I AM AN ALCHOLIC. Thank yo all for your support, I really need this site everyday along with my regular meetings.This is day 8, it is still really difficult. My love goes out to the rest of the new commers and also to those of you who have maintained thier sobriety and continue to guide and share your expierence with the rest of us.I too must take a med for clinical depression. People told me that I was not sober, My stinking thinking told me what the heck,I felt I had worked as hard as the next one and I might as well drink. Now, it is not about the next one. it is about sobriety and living, I dont wanto die drunk, and at last I know I dont want ti live that way either. I have been working with my sponcer and have started step 1. It is really o.k. with me to be the baby. for the first time in my life.Thank you each for allowing me to participate in this life saving program.


Member: Bonnie C
Location: Seattle
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 13:38:30

Comments

Hi bon again/alky, what I wanted to say is that I try never to sponsor more than one in their first yr at a time and what they give to me is so much, I have never received a phone call from anyone in the program that I havent received something. God works thru people, places and things. sorry for the double post but my point wasnt clear. see you all over at the coffee pot where we can chat, love and hugs, bon


Member: Linda M
Location: Ontario, Canada
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 13:50:09

Comments

Linda M, and I am definitely an alcoholic!

Welcome to all the newcomers and please keep coming back and don't drink. We need you too! Please don't be afraid Kevin--if you can get and stay sober your life will get better than you can imagine--mine has and I too battled depression during drinking and for awhile after stopping. Now I don't get depressed--If I feel down or upset I can always figure out what it is and do something to look after the situation. This is what the 12 steps have given me during 9 years of practicing them.

Balance is a biggie for me. I tend to overdo things I think I should do for others and am easily guilted into taking responsibility for what other people are responsible for. I try today to look after my sobriety and serenity first by asking for my hp's will for me each day, getting to meetings--even though there are some in my family of origin that think I am being self-indulgent to do so, and my all-important sponsor is one who helps me do this. My sponsor also helps me to be more realistic with myself and that I'm worth looking after, cause if I don't look after my sobriety I'm no help to anybody.

Have a great, sober, 24 hours! Linda M


Member: Paula Z
Location: Mexico City
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 14:09:11

Comments

Hi family! My name is Paula and I'm an alcoholic. This page is wonderful for me because I'm still very nervous (4 m dry) and I sometimes feel bad at the office but when I read your comments everything changes. Thank you for helping me to stay sober just for today. Kevin, don't worry, I felt just like you four months ago and now I'm living a complete new happy life. Keep coming. Great 24 hours for everyone!!!! Regarding sponsorship... I'm just listening, Thank you again.


Member: Gary V
Location: Boston
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 14:16:38

Comments

I'm gary, an alcoholic. I can't tell you how valuable this information is to someone like me. I'm new, keep logging in, reading everything I can to understnd how to make the program work. How do you not even know if someone's your sponsor, don't you have to ask people. Thanks again for sharing


Member: Judy L
Location: Los Angeles
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 14:57:53

Comments

I'm Judy, an alcoholic. Thanks everyone for your comments. Hang in there, newcomers! I've been sober for more than a dozen years. My life today is incredible compared to anything before AA. This is my first time at this website. I'm very isolated, self-employed as a writer, mother of a three-year-old, not much time for anything else. Balance is always a challenge. It's hard for me to get to AA meetings because of my family responsibilities. But so important to keep in touch with the concepts and people like all of you. I'll be back!


Member: Leo W.
Location: Tennessee
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 17:10:25

Comments

Hi, everyone. I'm Leo, and I'm an alcoholic. I've seen a lot here that helps me. My heart goes out to all of you who are in pain. I have several friends here in TN who have gone back out after some years of sobriety, and they're all having a very tough time getting back in the program. I can only hope I learn from their experience. Kevin S, hang in there. You don't know what tomorrow brings until you get there, so focus on today. If you read the Big Book, get a sponsor, go to meetings and don't drink, your "todays" will get better (or at least mine did).


Member: Ross - Alcoholic
Location: South Dakota
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 19:18:24

Comments

Balance is important to me. The way that I do it is to live one day at a time - pray - read the BB - do not drink and talk to my sponsor on a regular basis. God bless all.


Member: Chester L.
Location: Duncanville, Tx.
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 19:19:18

Comments

My name is Chester,Alcoholic.. As to the topic a sponser is invaluable to MY sobriety, cause he helps to keep me in today, and in the solution. When I tend to stray off the path and get back into my stinkin' thinkin' he calls me on it. Even when I relapsed, He stood by me and waited till I'd had enough and helped me walk back through those doors. No matter what's going on in my life, He helps me find an answer in the BigBook or His own experiance. Thanks to Him and my H.P. I've been kept clean & sober this time since 12-26-94.Thanks John...


Member: Mike K
Location: Morganton, NC
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 19:37:20

Comments

Hi I'm Mike and I'm an alcoholic. In regards to sponsorship. I believe sponsorship is one of the biggest keys if not the biggest key in early sobriety. You see my very best thinking got me here. I did'nt come into AA from eating too much ice cream or singing too loud in church. I came here because when I start drinking I can't stop and my life is haunted by the hideous four horseman mentioned in the Big Book. Anyway, I need a sponsor who has been through the steps and is active in AA. I want someone who will take me through the steps in a reasonable amount of time. I don't believe in any of this step a year junk. After going through the first nine steps, theres no reason why I can't stay sober on 10, 11 and 12. This of course is contingent on the maintenance of my daily spiritual condition. I hope this of some help to you, I know its helped me.


Member: Mike K
Location: Morganton, NC
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 19:37:35

Comments

Hi I'm Mike and I'm an alcoholic. In regards to sponsorship. I believe sponsorship is one of the biggest keys if not the biggest key in early sobriety. You see my very best thinking got me here. I did'nt come into AA from eating too much ice cream or singing too loud in church. I came here because when I start drinking I can't stop and my life is haunted by the hideous four horseman mentioned in the Big Book. Anyway, I need a sponsor who has been through the steps and is active in AA. I want someone who will take me through the steps in a reasonable amount of time. I don't believe in any of this step a year junk. After going through the first nine steps, theres no reason why I can't stay sober on 10, 11 and 12. This of course is contingent on the maintenance of my daily spiritual condition. I hope this of some help to you, I know its helped me.


Member: Fran B
Location: Montreal QC
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 20:25:52

Comments

Hi,

I'm Fran and I am an alcoholic. The only way and can get through my day is : When I get up in the morning I say: Today I do no drink.

I have a few years in AA and they helped me a lot and still do.


Member: Christine M.
Location: Bayville, NJ
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 23:11:33

Comments

Hi, my name is Christine and I am an alcoholic.

To Kevin in Ireland:

I to come from a long line of alcoholics, all of who are either dead or still drinking. All I can say is keep coming and most importantly:

DON'T LEAVE BEFORE THE MIRACLE HAPPENS!!!

To Kevin and Barbara and anyone else who has/does suffer from depression. That is ANOTHER disease and don't let anyone tell you you are not sober if you are taking medication under the supervision of a DR. for the depression. We drunks occasionally think we are an authority on things and unless that person has a medical degree and specializes in treating depression then they are not an authority and should not be advising you on how to treat your depression. They may, however, be able to advise you on how to stay sober.

To Gary in Boston (my hometown, and boy am I homesick!):

I too came to AA via the courts and a DWI 'bout 10 years ago. I did not want to get sober, did not want to stop drinking (thought my life would be over, no social life, blah, blah, blah). I just wanted to stop blacking out and waking up in strange places and getting arrested.

All I can say to you is keep coming and:

DON'T LEAVE BEFORE THE MIRACLE HAPPENS!!!!

You may even get sober, in spite of yourself. I did.

P.S. Yes, you need to ask someone to be your sponsor. A good suggestion is to ask someone who is the same sex as you and someone with more sobriety than you, a year is usually a good guideline but not engraved in stone.

Keep coming!!!

Christine M.


Member: Daphne S
Location: Canada
Date: 27 Jul 1998
Time: 23:59:04

Comments

I am an alcoholic, my name is Daphne. I joined this program Dec.18,1994 at the age of 17 , and have maintained continous sobriety (although not always serenity!!!) since that date. I have recently moved from a large city where there was a ton a AA meetings and support to a very small town and have discovered only 1 meeting a week about an hours drive from here. I really need you people , I have greatly missed the fellowship that comes in the meeting rooms!! To the original topic of sponsership-- I had a terrific sponser that guided me intoo this program (okay, honestly, she dragged me to as many meetings as it took untill I started to come on my own and enjoy them!) As for a "balance" in my life I an trying to find as many AA on-line services as i can to maintain support untill I can make my now weekly meeting. Thank you to each of you out there, just reading some of your experiences, strength, and hopes has now gotten me threw anouther 24 hours. Thank god for choices!! I wish you all anouther happy 24 hours! :o)


Member: tony g
Location: ma
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 00:57:54

Comments

i still figueing out what to do for a sponcer,ive been in the same group 5 mnths or better, maybe im a little nervous i mean what if i got someone,but didnt feel the need to call i would start feeling funny about that. what did you do ? do you have to call them every day?so far everthing is working out OK could getting a sponcer screw things up? im just a little nervous thats all. any answers??


Member: test
Location:
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 01:55:00

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Member: Athena
Location: Northern California
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 02:14:47

Comments

My name is Athena and I am an alcoholic--- I just celebrated eight years of continous sobriety. I also just (within the last 90 days) got a sponsor after being without for three years. I can not even tell you what a difference it has made in my life. I can not believe that I went without for that amount of time, or that I managed to not drink in the meantime. I guess there is a foundation for "get a sponsor, read the book and work the steps". I firmly beleive that my disease, on a daily basis, is out to kill me....as the book states at one time or another, my only defense against the first drink is going to be GOD.. My disease wanted me to believe that I really could do this on my own...That I did not really need a sponsor like all my other fellow recoving alcoholics, that somehow I was different. Thank God for a major catastrophe to bring to my attention, that this is oh so erroneous. Thank God for the program of Alcoholics Anonymous!


Member: Barbara W
Location: New Zealand
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 02:15:35

Comments

Hi, my name is Barbara, and I am an alcoholic. I came into Alcoholics Anonymous in May 1987 and managed to stop drinking on 15 July that same year. Sponsorship was introduced to me in those very early days and I certainly recommend it to anyone. I don't really think I would have stuck with AA this long if I hadn't had the guidance of such a person. I have periodically sponsored other women and currently two, one who lives local and one who lives quite some distance away, who contacts me once a week. I always find it uplifting, - and a reminder to me as to where I have been slipping while giving these women the reminders. My life is incomparable to my drinking days - in fact, even to my first five years in AA!!! The things that have encouraged me to stay in and around AA thus far when contemplating staying away for awhile are... contacting my sponsor, and hanging in there In There - One Day At A Time.


Member: Erik
Location: ma
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 02:21:46

Comments

hello people, i am not an AA member but have gone to a few meetings in the past. I am a binge drinker..Alchohol has cost me jobs an d many friends. Gee, who was that i fought last night, who's bed am i in. ( a normal weekend) I met the finest girl the other night and made a date with her but forgot where to meet her and her name,...of all times to black out <heck , i cant even remember how i met her...this is getting scary. For some reason i woke up unde4rneath a bridge the other night. And what about that depression and guilt that you feel the next day, seems the only thing that gets rid of it is another beer. Dont laugh but today i figure4d something had to change so i bouhgt lite beer instead of ice (six pack). I am only on the fourth one..i guess its an improvement Well i have no plans on going to a physical meeting, but wouldnt mind seeking help on this page( i never did function well socially) I started losing weight again, i am back down to 140 lbs (6 foot 1 tall). I wish i could get my appetite back. The worst part of my scenario is i do not have my own place so if i keep screwing up, i will have no place to go and my depression will surely hit an all time high. I am kinda sober right now (only 5 beers) but i know my drinking cycles, if i dont stop now and take a break for a month or so i will end up dead or in jail. I have been drinking siunce i was 11, i just turned 21 saturday I am sorry for boring you people, but if anyone thinks they can help I am at the end of my rope here


Member: Frank C.
Location: Yreka, CA
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 02:44:25

Comments

My name is Frank and I'm an alcoholic...to say that means alot to me. It means that I have accepted that I have an inability to drink alcohol like a gentleman...it also means that I have a "name for my pain." With this in mind I now realise with 8 years, 9 months and 22 days of sobriety that I have to do certain things in order to continue this sobriety... On of those things is to have a person who I can talk to about my life and the things that bother me as life unfolds. This person for me is a fellow named Chuck LeC. who will on the 12th of August celebrate 33 years of continous sobriety. I've found during my time her that I'm just another alcoholic trying to stay sober and to "get a life." In order for me to get that "life", I must first get involved in the AA program. this I have done, with many forms of service work and attempting to do the suggested things like Ugh....steps. I now have come to the conclusion that the AA program must BE my life in order for me to have a "life" on the outside. I know that the more i'm immursed in the program that the better my life gets in here, the better it gets out there....one day at a time.


Member: Frank C.
Location: Yreka, CA
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 02:44:54

Comments

My name is Frank and I'm an alcoholic...to say that means alot to me. It means that I have accepted that I have an inability to drink alcohol like a gentleman...it also means that I have a "name for my pain." With this in mind I now realise with 8 years, 9 months and 22 days of sobriety that I have to do certain things in order to continue this sobriety... On of those things is to have a person who I can talk to about my life and the things that bother me as life unfolds. This person for me is a fellow named Chuck LeC. who will on the 12th of August celebrate 33 years of continous sobriety. I've found during my time her that I'm just another alcoholic trying to stay sober and to "get a life." In order for me to get that "life", I must first get involved in the AA program. this I have done, with many forms of service work and attempting to do the suggested things like Ugh....steps. I now have come to the conclusion that the AA program must BE my life in order for me to have a "life" on the outside. I know that the more i'm immursed in the program that the better my life gets in here, the better it gets out there....one day at a time.


Member: Michelle
Location: CO
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 09:42:46

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Michelle alcoholic - Welcome to all the new people in sobriety. You have just entered the most important time of your life, when you REALLY start living it! Tony in MA - just ask someone to be your sponsor, and don't put so much thought into it. You will be a precious gift to them and help to keep THEM sober. You will also have a wonderful guide to help you start your journey home.

Balance is so important for alcoholics who tend to do everything to excess. I do know that my sobriety must come first, or I have nothing else to balance.

Faith without works is dead.


Member: Debra CR
Location: Beautiful Boston, MA!!
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 10:36:28

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Hi there, My name is Debra - I AM an Addict/Alcoholic. I related to what Barbara G. said. Today, I am 2 days sober (so far). I was sober for four years after drinking since I was 10 (10 years). I decided to get into therapy and that scard the s@#t out of me. I found "courage" in the bottle again. I have been drinking since then (4 years) and I need to get to a meeting. I had a sponsor during my in and out periods, but now she isn't going to meetings, though we are still close and I love her very much. She is still wise to me, but I am afraid she is isolating herself. I just wanted to claim my seat today. What sent me to the edge this time was a good friend's boyfriend called me an alcoholic, joking, but it is not funny. I am, and that is why I am so pissed off. He is an unfeeling jerk and I am sure that without my friend telling him about my life, he wouldn't have known. I keep going back to if she is such a good friend, why didn't she come talk to me instead of airing my dirty laundry? Didn't mean to babble. Thank you, please say a prayer (to God as you know him) for me if you don't mind. I need some help. One day at a time, I keep chanting that to myself and asking God to do what I cannot do for myself and help me to stay sober...just for today.


Member: Judith K.
Location:
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 12:18:23

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Dear Kevin S: My name is Judith and I am an alcoholic who just this past Friday celebrated two years of sobriety. I wouldn't trade where I am today for anything in the world. It was a difficult road for me - I am willful and stubborn and didn't want to listen to anyone's suggestions... and I too was (and continue to be) very afraid of getting to know my true self. However - there is a saying that goes "You don't know what you don't know" and I surely never knew the peaceful happy BLISSFUL moments I have experienced in sobriety - nor did I know the feelings of gratitude for learning how to handle difficult times with patience and courage. I got them from my group and my sponsor. Whenever I faced a difficult situation in my life, they reminded me that I could make it to the other side of this turbulent river. And, with the help of my higher power, I did. You can too. Trusting a power greater than yourself is the key. Removing the drink from my life lifted the veil from my life. Yes it will be difficult but I believe that if you take the suggestions offered in the big book - and read it often - you will be successful. You're 32 and you have your whole life ahead of you. Read the comments by JC in DE if you need some hope. And things may be difficult for your wife and children - but she can take the journey with you - Al Anon is a wonderful program offering the same program for those close to alcoholics. I wish you peace and serenity on your journey - there are so many who will help you if you will only ask.


Member: Mark L.
Location: Staten Is,N.Y
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 14:16:07

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Hi Mark L Alcoholic!

Hello to the newcomers and welcome! Erik, I tried to control my drinking and failed terribly! I was a everyday drinker,then my wife had me go to therapy and they tested you for alcohol and drugs. So I chose to try and beat the system. I got all the books on drugs and alcohol checked to see what stayed in my system. Found out alcohol stayed for 48 hours,so I was going to therapy Tues and Thurs. I decided I could drink Thurs to Sun. afternoon and come up clean if tested. What happened then was I started drinking only on weekends, I ended up drinking as much as I did during the week. Believe it or not A.A. did save my life even when I didn't want to be a member. I went for 9 months till I realized I had to be there. I was there for all the wrong reasons but kept on going. Now I am going for all the right reasons and taking responsability for my life. I reach out to help others and take comitments and bring the message back to people like you saying "Just put the drink down for today" Take it 1 minute,hour or day at a time if that works for you. Blackouts are a drag. Death isn't a requirement! Debra, you keep it real GREEN for me, to have time and have to come back is definitely not where I want to go to. I give you alot of credi just for coming back. You do know what you have to do I am sure. Go back to meetings, stay here if you choose to, but get active with the program,get another sponser if necssary. DO WHATEVER you have to do to get back where you were. I know that we all love each other in this program. It doesn't matter who or what you are. we learn to let A.A. us till we can love ourselves again! Just keep talking to people, Im sure it will get better if you let it. JUST LET GO, LET GOD or a HIGHER POWER OF YOUR CHOICE.

This program works if you let it!

Love to everybody here!

Thanks for Letting me Share

Mark L


Member: chuck k
Location: twincities MN
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 15:14:10

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CHUCK K AND I AM AN ALCOHOLIC. I feel that I must adress erik from MA. My suggestion to you is when you dicide that you have had enough: go to a meeting, read the big book, and get a sponsor. Even though you have been drinking today, you can still get to a meeting. I have seen many drunk people come into meetings. I have seen them stay sober. The discussion of balance and sponsorship. I like to think of balance as a day to day goal. If I ask god to manage my life today, the day seems to be balanced in one way or another. when I don't the day is unbalanced. One other thing about balance. I tend to over plan sometimes. this always comes back to haunt me. I get very busy because of all the plans I make. On the other hand I don't want to have a lot of extra time on my hands. It can be difficult to find a balance, but it is easier when one get god involved. Or a sponser can help too. I suggest to anyone who does not have a sponsor to get one. Even if it is a temporary one. I say this only because I needed someone to talk to early in my sobriety. Just find someone you can understand and relate to. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIKE THEM BUT CALL THEM ANY WAY!!! This is a we program. I can not do it on my own. thank you for letting me contribute. god bless


Member: Lisa F.
Location: Inland Empire,Ca
Date: 28 Jul 1998
Time: 19:34:35

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Hi everyone, Lisa alcoholic here..It's been wonderful being able to come and read the E.S.H. from everyone I'm sure glad you's were here when this alcoholic needed you.. You'll be missed!!! Oh ya I guess I should have told you that I'm going off line Thanks again Lisa


Member: Connie
Location: Missouri
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 00:14:11

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Hi my name is Connie and I am an alcoholic, and would never want to change it either. Thanks for the two topics. Sponsorship; That is a good one. I have had the same sponsor of and on for 10 and a half years. I related to her. She had something I wanted, so I stayed with her. She took me through my steps, which I new nothing about. Everything was so foreign when I got into these rooms. I remember just sitting in the rooms and absorbing everything and just listened. My sponsor guided me through my first 12 step with my own sister. She is my best friend now, and she knows me better than anyone else including myself at times. However, I had others in between her. Cause she choice to leave the program. Every sponsor I choice, had wisdom I wanted, and had something about them I needed to have. I moved to another State a year ago, and I had to get another sponsor in the state I am in now. It is just like starting over from scratch. I knew no one. I have one after going through 3 sponsor here. She is wonderful and she is much older than I am, but she has something I am looking for. I sponsor one girl here in town in one girl in my old hometown, and I get out of them the same thing they get out of me. A lot of love and caring of friends.

Balance; I have found balance can be a hard one to follow especially when we get on those emotional rollercoaster. But using the phone and calling my sponsor usually helps me regain my balance.

There has been a lot of newcomers on this line this week. Anyone who can admit they are an alcoholic has taken the right step in recovery. Sponsorship and balance follow slowly afterwards.

Tony g. when you get the nerve to ask a sponsor ask them, the worst thing that can happen is they say no, then you ask someone else or you ask them if they have any suggestion to who you could ask, usually when someone says no it is because they are sponsoring to many people already. It is not because it is you. And if you don't like this person after you asked them you can always find someone else along the way. It is all one day at a time.

I want to welcome Barbara, Kevin, Gary and Debra to the program. These rooms are for all who feel they are alcoholics. It is so nice to see the program really works and to see and hear new people come in to the rooms. Or they coming back.

I love everyone and thanks for being here for me today Connie


Member: Christine M.
Location: Bayville, NJ
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 00:34:48

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Hi Everyone, My name is Christine and I am an Alcoholic.

I realize that this is a meeting and that balance and sponsorships were topics, however, I feel I must address Erik in MA so please forgive me for breaking format.

Erik, I am also from MA now living in NJ and homesick. You are so young only 21, I was 24 when I was court ordered to attend AA five nights a week after a DWI arrest (one of three arrests that Summer.)

Listen, Erik, I didn't want to "get sober", I didn't want to go to AA, I didn't want to stop drinking. What I did want was a cute boyfriend to take care of me while I drank and keep me from getting arrested. I did want to stop blacking out and taking my clothes off at parties. I did want to stop blacking out and waking up with someone I didn't know, never met and would not recognize if I fell over him today. I did want to stop blacking out and waking up with some one so ugly that my friend collapsed the tent in which we were sleeping so I wouldn't have to see the guy and would get out while the getting was good. I did want to stop waking up, wondering where I was, where my clothes were and praying to God, literally, that I had all my limbs.

What I am trying to say is we don't all arrive here virtuous human beings. You don't have to want it and you don't have to want it for the right reasons. It has been almost nine years since I woke up with any of the above feelings or situations and it has been almost nine years since I drank, what a coincidence!

I told an old friend of mine who knew me drunk and sober, the above. That you don't have to even want it when she was judging someone in her group saying, she doesn't really want it and she's not ready and my old friend said to me:

"Well, Chris, that's fine if you really want to believe that!"

Believe that, no, I know that.

That is was happened to me.

My friend had been attending meetings for about the same number of years as I have, eight or nine years. She has year or so. Again.

Erik, you don't even have to want it. Just show up. You might get sober in spite of your self. I did.

Love and Peace,

Christine M.


Member: Bob C.
Location: Calgary
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 01:44:03

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I think it important to keep in mind that , as vital as meetings are, they are not the program of Alcoholics Anonymous-the Twelve Steps are.For those of us who sometimes can't make it to as many meetings as we'd like get by just fine as long as we are "practicing these principals in all our affairs."For myself,it's a dangerous thing to base my sobriety and serenity on meetings because I'm then dependent on something that I can be seperated from.But being based in the principals of the steps and my Higher Power,my strength is always with me. As for balance-time takes care of that. remember-it's not about what WE think we should do.


Member: tony g
Location: ma
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 02:29:34

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so first i go to aa meetings, that isnt enought.now i need a sponcer for those meetings but meetings arent enought now i have to do 12 steps now i think i know why some people jst back away from aa and just go thier own. with all do respect. hey michelle thanks for answering you seem very straight forward and nice..ill figure this out one way or another i have5 plus beutiful mnths of cont. sobriety im not going to throw it away my higher power seems to understand. thanks michelle from co and connie too. ill be back!


Member: Santiago S
Location: Switzerland
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 05:56:40

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Hi, everybody, I am Santiago and I am an alcoholic. This is my first time on the discussion meeting. Thanks, Bruce and Ted, for the topics you've brought. I am 38 and the father of a 2 year-old. I spent about 20 years in heavy drinking and severe depression. I have been sober and in AA for 14 months and haven't used any anti-depressant medication since last January. For most of my life, I never managed to accept myself as both an alcoholic and a depressed being. I just couldn't face these issues and was afraid of them. Fortunately for me, I took some "slaps". The first one I took while living in Calgary, when I realized I just couldn't bear it all alone and should find some help to get me out of depression. I had a sponsor (a counselor) for two years, and the therapy helped me a lot. This wasn't however enough, for I wasn't ready at that time to accept that I was also an alcoholic. This issue was never raised during those two years. I then had to move back to Switzerland, and that proved to be a living hell. I had no more counselor and drank more and more. I almost lost everything, including my life, and I still don't understand how I survived (my HP I guess) and what a hell it must have been for my girlfriend and our newborn son. I began a therapy again and I took my second slap when I accepted that I was an alcoholic. I was very lucky to find this therapist, because she gave me one piece of advice that really changed everything for me: «Go today to an AA meeting». Which I did. I still work with my counselor on a weekly basis and I attend to AA meetings also on the same basis. It's almost unbelievable that I am (re)learning to appreciate and to love life. After 14 months in AA, however, I do feel now that there are some issues linked to alcoholism where my counselor cannot help me, which is OK. I guess it is time for me to look for a sponsor inside AA; I feel that I need him/her and this is good. As far as balance is concerned, I know that I need those meetings (outside and inside AA); if I stay alone I am going straight back to the hell where I came from. Sure enough, there are some people around me who think I am overdoing it, yet others have come to accept it and really do help me. There is no question about it, I need AA and my AA friends if I intend to keep growing the way I have been. This is now part of me; I accept it and am grateful for it. It is my path in life. Others may or may not accept it, I guess that concerns their own paths. I know that if I get cut from AA I will be lost, for myself, and for the others: no connection any more with the movement, my HP and those who I love. For all the newcomers, as my sponsor said, go attend an AA meeting. It doesn't cost much (except maybe a couple emotional slaps); give it a try, there are many friends ready to help and there's so much out there to gain! Thanks to everybody, Santiago


Member: sharont
Location: Chicago, IL
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 12:25:48

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My name is Sharon, alcoholic and addict. I joined this group a month or so ago, but didn't follow any advice and soon ended up back out there. I am sober now for 2 day, and feeling bad. I know that getting a sponsor will help me get involved in the program, but for someone with a big mouth drunk, I can't open it to ask for help sober. I will not drink today, but I'm in need of prayers that I can make it past the week-end. I am rationalilzing that if I do that I will be on the right road. I can't afford to get ahead of myself right now for more than a couple of hours. When I do, I am already on a downhill slide. Thank you to everyone who shared, I hope and pray that I too can find what you have all found. I hope to keep coming back, and thanks for listening.


Member: Debra CR
Location: Beautiful Boston, MA
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 12:56:53

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Sharon - I feel your pain. I am 3 days sober. I will pray for you. I wish I had your email or phone, but I know we can't do that on this board. I will keep you in my thoughts. Only you can do it for yourself, with God's help. Ask him to do what you cannot do for yourself and take away the urge to drink. Turn to him when you feel weak. I am not a God-freak or anything. I am not even sure what God is, but I know that doing those few things will help you. You deserve a sober productive life. You do. You deserve it. It gets better, that is what they say. Take care. One minute at a time if that is what it takes.


Member: Terry, B
Location:
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 17:07:50

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I've been sober for the last 8 days and I owe it to this site and the other links to AA. I live in a small township without access to meetings. I simply want to thank all the people that share their knowledge of AA & their past experiences.


Member: Martina G
Location: Ct
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 18:07:37

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sharon, this isn't the coffee pot, but I'm not sure you will read there, so I want to tell you that you are on the right track in taking things an hour at a time. If you are really ready to live a sober, normal life, go to as many meetings as you can. Put your blinders on for now and don't look to the left or the right; behind you or in front. Just keep in the moment and don't drink. Many, many, many of us have been where you are at and there IS life after all of this hell.

I will pray for you


Member: Karen
Location:
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 19:17:04

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Hi Im Karen-alcoholic-to Kevin in ireland i want to say see a doctor for depression and ditto to what Christine M said Don't let any one tell you if ou take antidepressants youare not sober. They are two different diseases and I think I would find it almost impossible to stay sober without taking meds for depression. As for sponsership - it is a very important topic, the first thing you should do is at least get a temporary one if you cant find a permanant right away. Go to a meeting and listen , when you here someone share who sounds like they have what you want ask them. If it doesnt work out you can always ask someone else later. As for balance I find if I go my meetings regularly everything else seems to fall into place. We all had hours to drink we can take an hour or two out of each day to get to a meeting.


Member: Karen M.
Location: New Jersey
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 20:20:33

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My name is Karen and I am an alcoholic. Wow! I am blown away by the number of people sharing this week with just a few days or months sober. I can feel the pain you guys are sharing. What I can tell you is that you never have to feel this way again and that you are not alone. AA saved my life and the key is SURRENDER. Fighting doesn't work. Admit you've had enough pain and give up. Go to a meeting and become willing to do whatever you have to to live a new way of life. AA works, no kidding.

Regarding sponsorship, I heard someone at a meeting recently describe it this way. As an alcoholic we are living in a box. The instructions for how to live sober are written on the outside of the box and we need our sponsor to read them to us. That is how it works for me.

Balance takes time and practice. Sobriety is a lifetime exercise, you don't have to do everything all at once or perfectly. You just need to be willing to live a better way at first, trying to do the right things for the right reasons.

AA is a simple program for complicated people. Keep coming back. It truly does work--I've been sober over 12 years. By the way I use a sponsor, sponsor other women, and still go to at least three meetings a week. I don't ever want to go back to my old life and I am grateful for every day sober. As they say "my worst day sober is better than my best day drunk." I'll keep coming...

Peace.

Karen


Member: Mark L
Location: Staten Island,NY
Date: 29 Jul 1998
Time: 21:08:11

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Hi, Mark L. Alcoholic,just wanted to say sponsorship is a 2 way street. You give and you shall recieve. My sponsor who has 9 years did something he shouldn't have. He works in a in a clinic with people who have mental problems. He dated a patient and another person who knew this person reported him and he got suspended from his job pending a hearing. I've reached out and have talked to him. But I realize you learn from experience what happens in life. But it teaches me that you have to PRACTICE ALL PRINCIPLES BEFORE PERSONALITIES. That there is alot of truth in it. Friday at midnite I will be celebrating my 2nd Anniversary. I am very grateful to have alot of people who have helped me achieve all this and not have to drink or drug anymore. You all are a power of example for me and that I am thankful for. Love to everyone.

Thanks for Letting me Share


Member: Chris B.
Location: Petaluma, Ca.
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 01:28:43

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Member: Chris B. Location: Petaluma, CA July 29, 1998 10:21 Pacific Time

Hi Everyone, My name is Chris and I'm an alcoholic. I'm grateful for this on line meeting and thanks to the technical cyrvants who maintain the site. I am sober today through the Grace of God and the Fellowship of AA. I've had several sponsors over the years and have also sponsored many newcomers and people with several years of sobriety. Sponsorship was essential for me. I needed someone whose sobriety I respected. I found someone who had worked the 12 steps and had been sponsored by someone with long time sobriety & experience living sober with the ups and downs of daily life. My first sponsor was gentle but firm and very compassionate yet honest with me about me and about herself. She would listen to me and help me with the 12 steps and share her experience strength and hope. If I was having a problem that she didn't have experience with, she'd direct me to someone who'd had the experience and dealt with it. She was my first "healthy" role model and an example for me of how to strive to live a spiritual life, yet she wasn't perfect. This was just what I needed. It took me several months of struggling with the steps and going to meetings and feeling alienated and isolated. I thought I could work the program on the outpatient basis, using the Big Book, 12 & 12 and get sober by osmosis in meetings. It was hard for me to reach out to another human being and ask for help. All my life I'd "done it myself". I was also raised in an alcoholic family, and alcoholism, mine, my parents, and my friends was all I'd ever known of reality. When I got to AA, I found people with sobriety who were living a spiritual life but weren't necessarily religious. This was a great relief to me. Spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection is my mantra. That & the Serenity Prayer. Today I have one sponsee who's sober almost one year. She calls every few weeks. I used to beat people over the head with the Big Book; now I just share my experience, strength, & hope. Sponsoring helps keep me sober. Recently, my boss has started back to AA after several years of spiraling downward with his drinking. We've started to go to meetings together. He's a good man and it's been hard to see him suffer with this disease. When he told me he'd gotten a DWI, I wasn't surprised, but I told him I was glad he'd gotten to the point of willingness to get to meetings. Funny how going to meetings to support him ends up being a support for me. It gets me out of my self centered frame of mind and reminds me that my sobriety is contingent on the maintenance of a fit spiritual condition. Sponsees and newcomers 12 step me, even if they don't stay sober.


Member: DonnaF
Location: Cavetown, NM
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 01:29:07

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I have two sponsors, but it does not help unless I use them, listen and follow instructions. That is probably why I am not in a good place in my recovery right now. This is my very first opportunity to chat on the net with AA's from all over the world and after reading all the comments, I really do feel like I am at a meeting. Thank u all for being there for me tonight. I think I'll keep coming back.


Member: sim  c
Location: houston texas
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 01:36:59

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to every one this was my first time and i really enjoyed the experience. i will keep coming back


Member: SUSIE
Location: South Florida
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 01:55:55

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hi everybody, my name is Susie, I am an alcoholic and an addict. Just picked up my five year medalion. This site has a wealth in topics tonight but first I want to welcome the newcomers and those coming back. You are truely what keeps me sober. Everytime I hear what has happened to you I keeps me here one more day. On sponsorship: I was asked in rehab, if I were drowning, would I be selective as to who threw me the lifepreserver? Of course not. sometimes your first sponsor stays for life, but many of us find new sponsors as we grow in this program, I have. my current sponsor has less "time" than me but she aLso has what I want. Mark, I was going to meetings for about nine months before I finally decided I had "earned" my chair so it takes what it takes. Ted, you said you were having problems with friends and family who didn't understand the time envolved with AA. My husband is not "one of us" and can't see where a one hour meeting takes 2.5 hours. I simply remind him of where i used to be and what I used to do and he then encourages me to go. If I spend 10% of the time I used to drinkung and drugging and put it toward sobriety this turns into more time for family and friends who really appreciate my sobriety. And Erick, whether or not you realize it a seed has been planted and now you know where to go when and if you decide you want what we have. These online meetings are worth their weight in gold but NOTHING takes the place of real people's faces, voices and their experience, strenght and hope, so don't bet your sobriety on a computer--go to real meetings as often as you can and use this particular tool as just that, a tool. ReaL live people see and hear you and call you on your sh--, at least they do me. Anyway keep coming back,use your tools, and as previously don't quit before the miracle happens and we are all truely God's miracles. thank each and every one of you for keeping me sober tonight.


Member: John M C
Location: Herts U.K.
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 05:10:55

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Hi john Mc,recovered alkie.what a place this is,it could only happen in AA,wonderful,truly wonderful.Where else could you hear comments like"If you take anti-depressants your not sober",says who,is there a doctor in the house!!Sober,small word big meaning.theres one thing I do know and thats when I'm not sober.As for sponsorship,the first guy I picked,I liked what he said.Pity he knew nothing of the programme,God bless his cotton socks,the blind leading the blind.Stick with the "winners?"Whats a winner,an old timer, what's an old timer,someone with 25yrs+,try finding one!If we take this programme to its logical conclusion we should be tripping over them,not so.I find Clarence Snyders comment thought provoking,I quote "I only get new comers when you lot have screwed them up".)Whats the groups "responsibility"in all this,if any.Is it niave of me to think that the backbone of every AA meeting meeting could & should be made up with the kind of person described on pp18 b/book(in italics).Surely we should all aspire to be that person.


Member: Erik
Location: Ma
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 05:29:50

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mark chuck cristine and susie Thankyou for yoiur response9sorry if i forgot someone, lot of posts here) well, i only had 1 beer yesterday <smile> didnt do as good today but at least i swqitched to a weaker beer ...5.9% to 4.5% alc. I am on my 6th beer today but for me that is good I am not drinking to get "wrecked" today. I still need to get a job but itsw been so long since i have been wwworking 3months, i dont know here to start <have no car> I spent my last 40 $ on a dentist appointment today, suprisingly i felt good about it. It was a good thing i did. I seen in the other posts some of you suffer from depression, well i do and i use the alchohol to self medicate, but i overdo it. I have always refused to see a shrink (and please dont try to talk me into it). And another thing about the beer thats got me stuck is i can talk to people if i got a buzz, but if not my severe depression takes over. I am amazed at all the girls who comment how great looking i am in the clubs, but the fact that i dont have a girlfriend9because of my depression and low self esteem. I am very proud of my successful quitting of smoking, smoked since i was 13, 21 now quit 2 1/2 months ago. Also started taking karate, it is the only thing i enjoy now, 3 hours of my life a week that i am not bummed out...well maybe the clubs too. I like partying on the weekiend but dont like the day after. Its always regret of something either thinking about the ones you made angry in your arrogant stage , or the girl that wanted you but were to wasted to realize it til the next day. I visited this page this morning,read the posts and felt pretty good. I figured "yeah, only had 1 beer Im doin fine now, but 12 or so hours later it is all gone. I am not depressed at the moment but see that a change is needed. Got to start lifting again, exercise makes me feel better, but cant get myself to do it. My attitude(feelings) can be described as when you stick out your tongue and make that noise...i think apathy is the word for it. I cant talk to my family about this stuff, all she ever does is yell at me, but if she understood tht by lowering my self esteem even worse how will i ever be anything ? "You disgust me, you make me sick !!" I just think "yeah , i make me sick too". Right after that , oh you know my attitude is perferct for job hunting. I really need a job, but dont want minimum wage. I used to make 700 $ a week as a computer tech, but its kinda hard being a field tech with no car. Cant get a job because no car and get a car because no job ...I am screwed. I hope my posts are not too long, but they are straight from my heart, i cant just spill my thought s in 2 sentences. Damn these mood swings...i feel this now and am willing to talk about it but noone is here,in a few hours i will porably feel ok and this will start all over.Well i am on my eight beer now, but that is still pretty good for me. Uh oh, my account is empty, when they try to bill me if there is no money my ISP will cancel me. My 2 main problems unemployment and alchoholism. I lost my job and car because mo0f alchoholism but continue to get worse (drinking) BECAUSe) i have no job or car ! I am in a never ending cycle of bullshit ! At 21 this is getting scary, i dont even have a car and am on my way out the house...what now? I am horrified when i try to envision my fwuture....ill end the letter here thanks for listening


Member: Mark L.
Location: S.I.,N.Y.
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 10:26:20

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Hi,Mark L. Alcoholic! Erik all I can say for the moment is that you are crying out for help and that is a GOOD THING. Doing the right thing isn't always easy. You know that if and when you put that drink down life does change if you let it. I am going to be sober 2 years and celebrating my anniversary friday nite at 12.00am. You talk about clubs,parties,etc. But in A.A.s own way we have our parties too. When I got sober and quit smoking cigarettes(11/6/96). Things happened, not necessarily good. I ended up in the hospital 3 times. (Dec,Jan&Feb)1st time to find out my heart has major problems,2nd Asthma,3rd Double Pneumonia. When YOU PUT THAT DRINK DOWN LIFE GETS REAL! IT IS LIFE ON LIFES TERMS.I don't have to like it,I just have to do it. If you stay with this meeting things will get better. I have family up in Framingham. If and when you do put down that drink maybe we could hook up in Ma. Anything is POSSIBLE!.

I THINK THATS ENOUGH OUT OF ME.

Thanks

Mark


Member: Sharon T.
Location: Chicago, IL
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 10:26:45

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Hi, Sharon, alcoholic and addict. What a difference a day makes. Thank you to all of you who responded to me. I had a restless night, but each time I woke I simply prayed and asked him to help me. I'm still going hour by hour, minute by minute but today is less gloomy. I called a friend in the program and we are going to a meeting at lunch time close to work. In the meantime, thanks again, and I'll talk to you soon. God bless each and every one of you.


Member: Jodene Alcoholic
Location: OKC
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 11:18:24

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Good morning. My name is Jodene and I am an alcoholic. Thanks to all the newcomers for reminding me where I've been. That is one of the true gifts I've received in AA--finding out I'm just like you. And YOU are just like me. I always thought I was so "different" from everyone, my problems were ones you just couldn't understand. Do I KNOW differently today. First let me just say "ditto" to everything Karen and John MC said. There was a point very early in my sobriety when I had no job, no where to live and my sponsor had moved away. Fortunately I'd had enough exposure to AA to know that if I didn't stay sober, I wasn't ever going to have anything. So I told my Higher Power that he/she KNEW I needed a sponsor, and to please send one to me. That night after a meeting a woman I'd not had much contact with came up to me and said "Jodene, are you alright? You just...", before she could finish I said "No, I'm not alright and.......". That night she became my sponsor, and what a gift she was! I've always been told that you should ask someone to sponsor you that has something you want. For me that didn't mean she should drive the newest vehicle or sport a lot of jewels. What I wanted was peace. I asked someone who, to me, had a calmness about her that I craved....Sorry for going so long. I hope you can feel the embrace I'm sending each of you.....Thanks for letting me share.


Member: Kathy M
Location: WVa
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 19:03:44

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Hi folks, Kathy addict/alcoholic here: This message is for Kevin. You say your in big trouble. Believe me if you continue to drink your troubles will only get worse. Before I came to my senses and got into recovery, my troubles only got worse and worse to the point where I either had to give my old ways or go to jail. I can't imagine what would have happened to me if this would have happened. It takes alot of honesty and hard work to stay clean and sober. I have been in recovery for 21 months and still fight urges and cravings, but given a choice I would rather get help then go back to the way my life was and what could happen next time I give in. Believe in yourself, don't be afraid to ask for help, and trust the people in your life that want to help you. For me learning to reach out and trust was very difficult. But by sharing on this great site you have made a big step. Stay connected with us and any other programs you can. Thanks for letting me share.


Member: Megan
Location: Moorestown,NJ
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 20:09:08

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Hello fellow alcoholics my name is Megan and Im a grateful recovering alcoholic. I will have seven years sober in December(God willing) and I have been without a sponser for about three years and dont suggest it to anyone. I just had a baby two months ago and had a horrible pregnancy (alot of trouble) so i didnt get to many meetings. Im now trying to find some balance in my life. I want to find a sponser but i keep saying I want to find one I like or other excuses but the truth of the matter is its been so long I feel like a new comer sometimes. this site is great also for me to get more aa. Ive always kept up with my prayer and meditation and also reading my books but for this alky I need to get out more and go to meetings. thanks so much for letting me share. God bless everyone,all we have is today so do it sober. Megan


Member: Holly D.
Location: Aberdeen, Maryland
Date: 30 Jul 1998
Time: 21:35:03

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Hello Family! I'm Holly and I am a very grateful alcoholic. My schedule lately has been zany so I really apprecaite these on line meetings. It keeps me sane!

I really want to say to Erik, at 17 I was right were you were. Life was happening, but I didn't want to show up. I went to a good college, and almost failed out my first semester because of my drinking. I would talk about personal things to random people, I would make an ass of myself. Iwas out of control. I sneaked it, and I thought cutting down was better, that I would have control. Well, by the Grace of God and the Angel He sent in the form of my BEST FRIEND, I got sober...and 1 slip later, I graduated, have a job I love, and will celebrate 2 years in November. But in the process, I HAD to change PEOPLE PLACES AND THINGS.. which means, I left the boyfriend (we were best drinking buddies), I stopped going out to party and places with drinking, and replaced them with sober activities with sober people. In order to do this, though.. I suggest you go to a live AA meeting, so you can hook up with these sober people and go to the coffee shops, talk and let them show you the gifts life has to give you! By coming in here, you are saying it is time, and surrender makes you strong. I am 21 now, and do not wish to think were I might be today if I were still drinking.

So God Bless you, you can do it with all of us One Day at a Time!

Thanks for letting me share


Member: Chuck C.
Location: Iowa
Date: 31 Jul 1998
Time: 04:32:24

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my name is chuck and I'm an alcoholic. when I was drinking sometmes I would go to a bar and from the moment i walked in the door there was a beer poured for me, some fairer sexed person would wrap there arms around me. the music would play and before I knew it it was closing time.everyone was ready to go home , not I , I just couldn"t understand why in a place where the fun never ends, it had to. A sponser to me is someone who by what ever means nesesary, is willing to help me understand why the fun must end and the work begin in order to pay for all the fun in the end. My hope is that from this day forth I have enough time to do all those things I failed to do in the past to insure that I have a future. and by the grace of my higher power it will be a sober one. Thank You!


Member: Barbara W.
Location: MI
Date: 31 Jul 1998
Time: 09:51:42

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Hi Everyone, This feels sort of wierd, but then AA meetings always have . . . . I have been drinking since jr high school, but only now realize that I am an alcoholic. I worked with a therapist during my probation year after a UBAL citation, and attended meetings, quit and relapsed every other month, fighting the "diagnosis." But my family on both sides are full of alcoholics, so who am I kidding? I also struggle with depression, (for which I do take an antidepressant), and day to day life struggles having to do with being gay, professional, Christian (no that is not a contradiction in terms) and worst of all, trained as a psychologist. I have even worked as an addictions counselor in an inpatient facility! All the while, I was drinking daily scotches far into the evening---a practice I am now trying to stop. I have frequent blackouts now, but am step-parenting three beautiful kids who love and trust me and am in a covenanted relationship with a wonderful woman who also loves and trusts me.I have to stop, I truly want to stop but I am afraid of everything . . .. So this is my next "first step," and thanks all for your input and for listening. Erik, hang in there, and Kevin, most of my relatives who were the most profoundly alcoholic are third-generation Irish---especially my sainted Grandfather, who first introduced me to it, all the while saying, don't let "it get a hold on you." Well, okay, I am about to undertake a sober 24 hours. I welcome any help anyone can offer. Blessings to each of you.


Member: Dave H
Location: Northwest Minnesota
Date: 31 Jul 1998
Time: 12:06:52

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Hi my name is Just Dave. On the topic of sponsors, most likely I would be drunk if I had not followed the simple suggestions of AA. I got me a sponsor, we weren't the best of friends but at least he was another drunk like me, and even though I did not like what he had to say at times, I needed to start listening to others, because if I was honest to myself my way did not work. He told me "Dave being a practicing drunk is like having a room on the Titanic, it doesn't matter what room you go in your sunk" well that sure made sense to me. As far as today goes I'm sober and plan on finishing the day out that way. And thanks to my sponsor if I need him, today I'm proud to say "I can humble myself and seek my sponsor out or go to an AA meeting or whatever because sobriety is the #1 agenda for the day, because without sobriety I ain't got S_ _ _!!! EASY DOES IT Thanks all Just Dave


Member: Cathy P.
Location: Owensville, IN
Date: 31 Jul 1998
Time: 14:55:07

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Hi everybody! New computer and I was just looking around and I am overwhelmed by the number of drunks that can operate these things. I have thought that if ever there was anything that would cause me to want to pick up a drink it would be the use of one of these things. I'm still not sure I know how but my sponsor has one and since sponsorship was the topic, I think I'll call her now. Glad to be aboard.


Member: Marty G
Location: AL
Date: 31 Jul 1998
Time: 15:45:41

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Hi everybody, I'm an alcoholic named Marty. I just came back from my AA meeting and talking with my sponsor. I've been in this program since 22 Feb. I was told by my therapist that I was an alcoholic, eventhough I thought I was just having anxiety for fear of losing my job (not revealing a DUI I had over 8 years ago). I continued to drink after the DUI but no problems. I went back to school and finished, got married, bought a house, had a baby. Things were going great. Then I was asked by work to see a drug and alcohol cousellor for an assessment. I was really pissed of the evaluation... an alcoholic? a drug addict? Not me, I'm doing great. Well that was 5 months ago. I haven't drank for 35 days. I went to 10 weeks of group therapy and 90 meetings in 90 days. I then thought I graduated. Went back out and drank controlled 2-3 beers for 4 days in 2 weeks. Felt like crap. Let my sponsor down, therapist down, but I was so confused. I'm doing better now, but my sponsor pisses me off. Says I will drink again if I odon't do the 4th and 5th steps. I say I'm not in a hurry. Step one is hard eough for me. I have problems reading the big book because I can't relate to the stories. My sponsor says don't look for the differences, look for the sililarities. I'm just real confused. I'm not sure if my sponsor is helping me. I don't think he is, but then again he might. He says we are no different from all the other alcoholics out there, but I have a problem with that. Any suggestions? Thanks for listening. Great site!


Member: Martina G
Location: CT
Date: 31 Jul 1998
Time: 15:48:06

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Hi, I'm Martina, an alcoholic. I am reading a really good book that's helping me with the issues affecting balance in my life. It is called Boundaries. One of the authors is Henry McCloud (I can't remember the other author and I don't have it with me).

It really coicides with AA philosophy and helps you to understand all of the neurotic things we do as people pleasers... things that threaten the balance in our lives.

I even like the word: Boundaries. I'm learning how to set them as each day goes by and I don't drink. This helps alot to maintain a balanced life.


Member: Julie
Location: Ohio
Date: 31 Jul 1998
Time: 20:48:55

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Hi My name is Julie and I am a recovering alcoholic and drug addict What is the topic please? This is my first time to a meeting on the net.


Member: Bob C.
Location: calgary
Date: 31 Jul 1998
Time: 21:49:34

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Bob alcoholic. Hi Julie,welcome! The topics are "sponsorship," and "balance." You'll find the topics at the top of this page. Also,check out the "Coffee Pot" for a free for all discussion. Just click on the name at the bottom of this page.Good to see you here!


Member: Doug K.
Location: West  Mich
Date: 31 Jul 1998
Time: 22:31:53

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Hi everyone, my name is Doug, and I'm an alcoholic. Some pretty powerful stuff here, and much of it takes me back to where I never want to be again. I came into this program a beaten and broken person. Emotionally, physcologically, and spiritually bankrupt. Afraid and shaking. The Four horsemen - Terror, Frustration, Bewilderment, and Despair awoke with me each morning. Today, my life is beyond my wildest dreams. Each day is a gift from my higher power, a freebie, a miracle. Every day is great, bad moments occur, but the days are great. How did this happen to me inspite of myself? I got a sponser that had no time for bull, pity-pot, why me's, etc. He had me get honest with myself, I mean, Really get honest with myself. I read the Big Book, 12 & 12, Dr. Bob and the good old oldtimers, A. A. comes of age. Pass it on, and then the Big Book again. I humbled myself to a higher power. And I worked the steps - All of them - one at a time, but not necessarily in order.

This was not an easy thing for me at first, but today I am so gratefully for the miracles and the blessing. For the Fellowship and for this day. To you newcomers - if you want it for yourself - you can have it but you must work for it. Go to meetings, read the book, seek a higher power, ask for help, follow suggestions. Thanks that's all I have.


Member: Anita P.
Location: Indiana, USA
Date: 01 Aug 1998
Time: 01:33:20

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I'm Anita and I am an alcoholic. This is my first time online for a meeting. Sponsorship is real important to me, and I have had the same sponsor for over 10 years. She has helped me in so many ways. She has helped me to live a balanced life. I generally attend 3 meetings a week, but now I am restricted due to chemotherapy and very low white blood count and cannot be in crowds. This is temporary, and I am glad for the online meetings!


Member: Cindy C
Location: Seminole, FL
Date: 01 Aug 1998
Time: 09:32:42

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I am Cindy and I am an alcoholic! I wanted to responed to Erik. I have been there...wanting to drink wanting not to drink not knowing what to do. I have tried drinking only on weekends, the lite beer, no hard stuff but my epxerience has proven to me over the past 11 years that the only way is to NOT DRINK ONE DAY AT A TIME! You will probably cringe in hearing this over and over I know that I did. I kept wanting everthing in my life to be "All Together since CINDY was not drinking anymore but this is just not how it works. I found immediate results from not drinking! I still receive big rewards from not drinking. Big to me not so big to non-alcoholics. I had to learn how to sleep, take care of myself, responsibility for my own actions, have a conversation I could go on and on... but if you stick around we can learn from each other. That is what it is all about! Helping each other. Alcohol did for me temporarily but...then the guilt...then the drink... the same circle. After many years the alcohol was not enough!!! I have been sober for a little while now and I can tell you only of my eperience. I am now seeing results but it takes time. It took many years to create the mess in my life and it will take many years to get where I want to be....will take a lifetime. Recovery is a lifetime committment. You are on the right track by keeping and open mind and ASKING for help. This is really cool, I never get to share at meetings, too shy! Thanks for listening! CC


Member: Mark
Location: S.I. N.Y.
Date: 01 Aug 1998
Time: 17:00:16

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Hi, Mark L. alcoholic. Just wanted to stop by and say sponsorship is cool! I just celebrated 2 years last night at my midnight meeting. My sponsor who doesn't come out usually that late was there. Its amazing what you hear at anniversaries. You never kow how you affect other peoples lives in sobriety. MY meeting last night shows me how it works. Over 25 people chose to come out at 12 to be at my anniversary,it brought tears to my eyes as people shared. I wouldn't give this up for all the money in the world!. I just want to leave by saying:LESS IS MORE. This is from KEEPING IT SIMLPE

OUR PROGRAM IS SIMPLE.IT HASFOUR EQUAL PARTS:SOBRIETY,FELLOWSHIP,SERVICE,AND FAITH. SOBRIETY MEANS WE DON'T USE ALCOHOL OR DRUGS ANYMORE. FELLOWSHIP MEANS WE LET PEOPLE INTO OUR LIVES. WE WORK AT HAVING A LIFE THATS RICH WITH FRIENDS. SERVICE MEANS WE HELP WHEN WE SEE A NEED. IT MEANS KNOWING WE HAVE MUCH TO OFFER. FAITH MEANS WE BELIEVE IN A LOVING,CARING HIGHER POWER. IT MEANS USING OUR HIGHER POWER AS A GUIDE IN LIFE. OURS IS A SIMPLE,EASY PROGRAM. JUST REMBER SOBRIETY,FELLOWSHIP,SERVICE AND FAITH.

Thanks for Listening


Member: Jack C
Location: Ma
Date: 01 Aug 1998
Time: 17:02:58

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Hi, My name is Jack and I'm an alcoholic.

My recovery from the disease of alcoholism never began until I got a sponsor. You see, I was so lonely and afraid, and I trusted no one. I attended meetings for two years almost everyday. I stayed in the back of the room and I knew people by their shoes. I couldn't look anyone in the eye. I never asked for help. It wasn't until I got the gift of desparation in A.A. that I finally reached out to another for help and direction. It was the best thing I ever did for myself, besides put down the jug. This man became my sponsor and my first true friend. It was easier for me to place my trust in one person at first than a whole group of people. Together he and I have traveled the road of happy destiny and we helped one another stay sober and work the steps. I needed someone to show me the ropes and this man did that for me. He showed me how to be a sponsor to others as well. I will be forever grateful to him and for my higher power for putting this man in my life. I'm sober 13 years and he is still my sponsor today. Like he says though, sometimes its hard to tell who sponsors who. Thanks for listening and being there for me.


Member: Terry B
Location: Florida
Date: 01 Aug 1998
Time: 18:12:15

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My name is Terry and I am an alcoholic. Thjis is the 1st time I have ever "talked" on 1 of these forums so it mwy take some time to get used to it. As for sponsorship - regretfully in the 6 years I've been in the program I have never had a "real" sponsor. It has made the road to recovery much more difficult but at the same time I have not met any person - in or out of the program that I would trust to do the steps with - especially the 5th. I don't recommend this to newcomers but everybody has to find their own way.


Member: Carlos M.
Location: Bogota, Colombia
Date: 01 Aug 1998
Time: 20:52:01

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Hi. My Name is Carlos and I'm an alcoholic and an addict, I'm very pleased to find this meeting on the web and happy to have another way of mantaining my recovery while traveling. This is my first time in the web meeting, I'm impressed with the sharing and relating to it all-over. Erik, man.. you need help! try to stop and keep coming back, you must be true to yourself and find the strength inside to accept your condition, acceptance has been key to my recovery and kept me sober and clean for today. many thanks, and keep coming back!


Member: jocelyne n
Location: Montreal Québec.
Date: 01 Aug 1998
Time: 21:42:59

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hi my name is Jocelyne I am an alcoolic.I have a sponsor and i sponsor 2 young alcoholics. I think it is important to have one my sponsor helped me with the 12 steps especialy th 5th one and i try to do the same with mine. I am in my 6th year with the grace of God and A.A. It's my first time with you and i am French Canadian so i hope that you will be tolerant with my writing.balancing life in and out of the meeting sometimes its easy i am lucky my husband is an A.A. member too he joinded us 2 years ago. I dont try to tell him what to do he has his sponsor thats his job... I have to leave but i will be back soon its fun to have found this site thank you. jocelyne


Member: Eileen I.
Location: Branford,CT
Date: 01 Aug 1998
Time: 21:58:31

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I haven't written on here in a long time. Hi, my name is Eileen and I am an alcoholic. I have been sober about 5 yrs. The reason I say "about" is because I stoped counting at 2. I want to comment on Mark L. I hope he reads this. I am originally from Staten Island. Got sober at the Guyon Ave meeting (the church in New dorp beach) All I can say is the Staten Island meetings rule - no other like them. On my one year anniv. everyone and there mother showed and it was very overwhelming. My family and friends showed (even the ones who still drink) and everyone was touched at the response I got. I dont feel its the response I got its the response everyone gets at the meetings. No one is left in the corner. That is what I loved about those meetings. About sponsorship I did wrong. I had a male sponsor and then eventually became his girlfriend. It was the best two years of my life to which I am very greatful. People at the meetings hated it but he kept me sober. He still is in the program and is loved by all. I on the other hand moved to Conn. and havent been to a meeting in 2 years. I am ok though. Still not drinking. Anyway, I will stop babling. I love the Email list I am on I get Emails from everyone from all over the world from fellow AAer's. I would love to hear from fellow Staten Island AAers I love to talk about the meetings there. God Bless and have wonderful future 24ers's


Member: DEBBIE W
Location: GLENDALE, CA
Date: 02 Aug 1998
Time: 00:14:40

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Hi, my name is Debbie an alocholic, and I would just like a sugustion on how to approach a woman for sponsership? I go to meetings then chicken out. I feel this problem is weakening my spirts for soberity. I need to get past the fear and start recovering, before I give up I have 53 days sober, and I don't feel like I really relate with many people at the meetings I attend. I also feel that they won't understand me, or will look down on me. If the fellowship could help me with a suggestion on helping me fit in, I would be greatful. You know the internet makes it so much easier to say what I really need to say. God is at work in my life, and I have to do alot of leg work for myself with the help of the fellowship. Thank you for your help.


Member: Susan L
Location: Surrey, B.C
Date: 02 Aug 1998
Time: 01:41:58

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About balance. When you do go to meetings listen to the message the person who does not go to enough meetings is giving. It unwize to put your meetings in your day if you have the time. They should be like you meal times and your work, and going to bed at night. They need to be part of what you do daily for, in my opinion at least 2 to 5 years. This is not a game, staying sober. For most, if not all of us it is life and death. I will die without food and sleep and I will die eventually from alcohol consumption. I am not afraid I will die actually, I am afraid I won't. To go back to the person I was when I came in 17 years ago, if frightening. So do your self a favor, drop the ego and figure out how you can get to a meeting daily. We all know how to do the easy stuff, give the tought stuff a try.


Member: marylee W
Location: new orleans
Date: 02 Aug 1998
Time: 01:56:02

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Hi, I am new to this aa chat but what a great thing it is. I am seven years and a few months sober, i have just celebrated my 42nd birthday. It feels great to be sober. I work and go to school full time so this is a great way and can get and give what I need. thanks for letting me share!!


Member: Lee B.
Location:
Date: 02 Aug 1998
Time: 02:20:42

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My name is Lee and I am an alcoholic. It is great to see AA online. About a sponsor, finding a sponsor is not that hard. Look for someone you can relate to at a meeting, someone with some time in the program, often we will not ask someone who has many years in the program because we think they are to busy or they already sponsor to many people and would not have the time, or for many other reasons. If an oldtimer for some reason cannot be your sponsor they will surely direct you to someone that you can try. A sponsor is not only someone to help us thru the program but for many of us it is a first attempt to ask someone for help. The walk across the room to ask for that help can be the longest and biggest step in our recovery. Day at a Time


Member: bresnikr
Location: San Diego, CA
Date: 02 Aug 1998
Time: 03:32:06

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I have been 7 days without a drink and have attended 7 meetings. I am really glad that AA is there to provide a beacon for some as hopeless and downtrodden as myself. I can see God's hand in it. If anyone wants to email me, please do so to rbresnik@worldnet.att.net. Thanks!!!