Member: Naomi Z.
Location: Forestburgh, N. Y.
Date: 2/1/98
Time: 2:55:01 AM

Comments

First time here.Its wonderful. AEach and every oneee of you has helped me stay sober anothetr 24. Thanks to all of you. To Ruthie C. Yes, AA is a program of aaattraction rather than a program of promotion( Its for people who WANT itn not just those who NEED it} AA is also a place where many people have felt and saaaid the very things you are feeling saying and doing right now. I remember those days when I thought no none "knew". I remember the shame, the pain, the hopelessness and despair.I remember too when I would not make a commitment and responded to every well meant suggestion with " I'll try" Looking back I realize how terrifying it was , Scared to death of givikn up my buddy booze. I too drank over a fifth of Vodka a day. And then one day I was told "tryin' is lyin'"And I can only beli3eve iWAS MEANTITO HEAR THose words with my heart. The day I began to stop saying I'll try, was the day OI had to begin to say YES or NO thereby taking responsibility for my own behavior. I know I can't get you sober, but I can and will keep you in my prayers. And I will. Life is good and I am grateful. To Whitney, The Lady doth protest too much. You said humility, He said meetings, I think youre both right. Meeting makers make it God night all. I'll check in tomorrow. lol..


Member: Joe E
Location:
Date: 2/1/98
Time: 1:04:35 PM

Comments

this program has really helped me to appreciate just how lucky I am.


Member: Don S
Location: Huntsville, Tx.
Date: 2/1/98
Time: 1:50:07 PM

Comments

Great Day to be Sober!! Alan H./Ruthie C.... Ya'll hang in there! It gets better!! Just trust in God, read the big book and go to meetings!

GOOD LUCK!!!


Member: Jim M.
Location: Lima, O.
Date: 2/1/98
Time: 3:51:45 PM

Comments

It's the first day of February, the sky is blue, the sun is shinning and it's 50 degrees outside. But I am grateful today for my sobriety and for this fellowship. I thank my HP for giving to me what I need for this 24 hours.


Member: AlanH
Location: TN
Date: 2/1/98
Time: 9:02:32 PM

Comments

I made it. A whole weekend, I can't believe it, but I'm glad. Tomorrow is another 24. RuthieC hang in there with me!


Member: Erv W
Location: Adams Wi.
Date: 2/1/98
Time: 9:10:31 PM

Comments

Good evening one and all, This is my first day on the net at home.. I sure am glad that i found you.. I needed a meeting and I received one.. Thanks and God Bless !! Erv


Member: joseph c.
Location: S.C.
Date: 2/1/98
Time: 9:38:59 PM

Comments

Hi! this is my frist time here on the web that is. I have been sober for three years now and have come a long way. To thank I could barly read much less type on the world wide web. It has been a relly amazing trip. I think my lord JESUS for AA.P.S. I'm still working on my spelling.


Member: Ruthie C
Location: Georgia
Date: 2/1/98
Time: 10:44:55 PM

Comments

Hey everyone, I did'nt make it Saturday, however, I'm on my way to bed, in the morning when I get up it will be the first day I have not had a drink in almost 15 years. I'm really feeling good about that, I can't wait to have a couple of weeks on my belt, I know if I can get through that I will feel more like I'm on my way.

Thanks for all the support and sharing it is really helping me.

Thanks Alan H Suzanne H


Member: Nan D.
Location: Pocono Mt. Pa
Date: 2/1/98
Time: 11:06:53 PM

Comments

Hi, Nan alkie and druggie here. Tonight i need to share, and would like some feed back. There is this women that cannot stop drinking. Myself and other women in the rooms have tried to help her. Ive taken her to detox and rehabs. She comes out and goes right back to drinking. The problem is she calls all hours of the day and night. Mostly when she's in trouble. We decided we will just pick her up and drag her to meetings. Tonight that did not work, she used excuse after excuse and did not come. Then she called when I got home from the hospital meeting, to tell me she needs a ride to the hospital because she's sick, I told her to call an ambulance. I believe it was for attention or for a doctors note so she would not have to go to work tonight, cause sh'e been drinking. How far do I go. People were there for me, but she's wearing myself and other women down, do we ignore the women, or continue to answer these calls day and night, whenever she decides she needs attention. I realy don't know where the 12 step calls end and the abuse starts. Thanks Nan Love to all for keeping me clean and sober one more day.


Member: PATL
Location: KANSAS CITY MO
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 5:48:01 AM

Comments

Hi,this is Patl,akie & druggie. <Nan> I just recently went through a simuliar situation here. My sponsor had told me the best we can do is give the opportunity to recover, but the big part is they have to WANT to stop. We had a lady with 40+ years sobriety. She is 93yrs old. We used to pick her up for the meetings and she was the sweetest in the world. One Saturday, we went and found a note on her door to leave her alone, she couldnt attend a meeting. This not only upset the entire group but the entire town she lives in. Her doctor came to a special meeting and told us, she had alztimers (however you spell it) and at first had forgotten she was an alky. Now with booze in her system she was back to day one. All the old timers got together and they were afraid. What in heck do you say to someone with that much sobriety? Basically all you can do is treat them as anyone else, give them the opportunity <AA> to stop, mainly, they have to want to. Im very new to the program and need lots of help myself. It all starts with the SINCERE DESIRE to quiT. Keep it simple. I cant always get to a meeting we I want. This is why I come here. I started a new job and will have internet access soon, this should help a great deal. For now my attitude is "tomarrow, I will get plastered! but today I will be sober" Just 24hrs. Seems shaky, but for me it works. All I have to do is stay sober TODAY. Feel free to write me, I've not quite got it yet, but Im working on it. DIRTYFERTY@HOTMAIL.COM


Member: PatL
Location: Kansas City Mo
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 5:53:15 AM

Comments

Hi, me again, PatL p.s. <Bernie>, send me that recipe for balance..please!

DIRTYFERTY@HOTMAIL.COM


Member: Tony G.
Location: Pequannock N. J.
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 8:17:06 AM

Comments

Hi gang, Tony G. alcoholic. <Nan> aid vs. being conned, take it from me if you feel all she is doing is playing on your sympathy she probably is. I should know, that is what I have been doing for a long time. I would find people I could 'get over' on and get what I need when I can not I tried others, now there are no others. people know me well enough and just Give me advise like don't drink and go to meetings, One day, hour, minute, at a time. Talk to other alcoholics, call your sponsor, etc. Thank for being here, Tony G.


Member: davidc
Location: NC
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 9:55:56 AM

Comments

David a drunk here.

Nan, I always heard carry the message and not the drunk. Sometimes we can enable when we are trying to help. Lord knows I speak from experience. Friends of Lois have helped me over the years, just as much as friends of Bill.


Member: Suzanne H.
Location: Ontario Canada
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 11:00:57 AM

Comments

Good Morning To Ruthie C. and Alan H. Keep Coming Back! To all, have a great 24 hours!


Member: Karyn K
Location: Ontario Canada
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 11:26:25 AM

Comments

Hi..this is Karyn. First time here...a friend of mine told me about this site. Don't know what to say. I'm going to try and go to a meeting. See how it is. Wish me luck


Member: Glen H
Location: Denton, TX
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 2:22:26 PM

Comments

Nan, what we had to do was to tell the person that we would be there at 5:45 each evening for a ride to the 6pm meeting and if you are sober and want to go, we'll take you.

The second was that you can call anytime BEFORE you have that first drink, but if you call afterwards we have to hang up because a drunk can't carry on a decent conversation.

And then we did what we said we would..and asked God for help. How did it work ? I'd love to finish this with "and the guy has been sober ever since" but while it hasn't worked out that way, at least the guy is exactly where God wants him to be.


Member: judyk
Location: MA
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 2:42:03 PM

Comments

Hi - Judith - an alcoholic here. Nan - I also have heard carry the message, not the alcoholic. Last week a woman I know fairly well called me saying that she was in TROUBLE and wanted to go to a meeting - only then to give me a hundred reasons why she couldn't/wouldn't go. She told me I didn't understand how busy she was and that she should have known better than to think anyone would and hung up. I felt that I had failed as a fellow AA and that I sure hadn't carried the 12th step to her. But my sponsor suggested that I had handled it perfectly - I offered myself, offered a meeting and she rejected it. I can't make her choices. I can't save her. I have to TURN IT OVER to my higher power and put all my faith in HIM. Thank you all for your words - they really spilled some sunshine into this Monday morning at work. One day at a time is all we have and all we have to do. Keep coming.


Member: Pete M
Location: Durham, NC
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 5:11:45 PM

Comments

Hi! Pete M. This is a first for me, ON LINE that is. It would seem that I have had many failures in trying to pass it on. However I'm still sober, almost 10 yrs.. I was told awhile back that any person could be a power of example. If they don'y get it; it's an example of what may await me in my own denial Or a power of example that GOD still does work miracles. For that miracle to work for me I must remain WILLING......


Member: Robb W.
Location: Mississauga,Ontario,Canada
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 6:26:11 PM

Comments

Hi gang! Robb alcoholic. To Karyn K. get out to a meeting and don't look back. It's the best thing that could happen to any alcoholic. Just wanted to stop by and see how everyone's doing and it's good to see some newcomers!! Well I gotta go to a meeting. Keep coming back! Wishing you all another 24 hours of sobriety, Robb


Member: PeggyB
Location: ID
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 8:45:09 PM

Comments

Hello to anyone out there - spouse of an alcoholic. Just read all the comments wishing my husband would get a clue he has a problem. I tried Al-anon. It helped some but my situation is very different. My husband is Mr. Mom. I'm the bread winner. He does his drinking at home - he's hiding it now. I feel so frustrated. He has a few close friends that are alcoholics. One of them was told by his doc. to either stop drinking or he was going to die. He told him he may die anyway from the booze - his liver is so far gone. My husband says he is just a skelton of the man he once was. I ask myself why doesn't this even start a thought process. It's very hard to "stand by your man" when you feel like there's only one love in his life and it's not the kids or you. I'm scared we (the kids) will "love him to death." If anyone would share what made them wake up and "smell the coffee" I would be so grateful. I don't know what else to try. We have had an intervention. He says he doesn't have a problem. This morning I loaded all of his clothes into our Suburban told him I wanted him to leave. I am tired of his lies. Well, I came home from work and he's sitting in his chair with, you guessed it, a drink. Thanks for being a sounding board.


Member: BillC
Location: Palm Beach FL
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 8:46:35 PM

Comments

I don't think we're breaking the anonymity tradition when using our e-mail address.(This response is how I landed here in the Coffee Pot)


Member: BillC
Location: Palm Beach FL
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 8:46:45 PM

Comments

I don't think we're breaking the anonymity tradition when using our e-mail address.(This response is how I landed here in the Coffee Pot)


Member: Nan D.
Location: Pocono Mt. Pa.
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 10:21:41 PM

Comments

Hi Nan Alkie and druggie here. I love you all for being here. I heard alot of good suggestions to my dilemma, thanks, and between all you guys and my sponsor, and the women from my support group i saw tonight, i know what to do, and the main thing is to pray for that woman. To Karen K. keep coming back and welcome, I hope your first meeting tonight will be the first of many. Good luck and try to take the suggestions, when i finally did, they worked for me, and the road ahead is wonderful. Peggy B. The best thing you can do is go back to alonon. You cannot stop him from drinking, but you can learn how to handle living with him or learn to leave him, whatever the case may be. good luck to you.


Member: Eric
Location: The biggest little city in the world
Date: 2/2/98
Time: 11:49:02 PM

Comments

What Bill W. was musing about the night Father Ed Dowling came in from the rain to meet Bill : " God gives us moments, and for these moments we give our lives." Father Ed became Bill's sponsor.


Member: Kerry B.
Location: Idaho
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 12:18:00 AM

Comments

Kerry, alcoholic. So glad to be sober today, even though I have a rotten cold. Peggy B. - you have been given the right advice. I know you probably feel that your situation is different, but believe me, there is bound to be someone at the Al-anon meetings that have been in a situation similar to yours. We draw strength from each other in any 12 step program, not just AA. You are powerless over your husband, just as no one could get me sober, you will not be able to get him sober. All you can do is turn him over to a Higher Power and take care of yourself and your children. I have been in relationships with practicing alcoholics and found that all I could do was pray for them and take care of myself. It really is hard. I know!! I will keep you and yours in my prayers.


Member: kay, h.
Location: vegreville alta, can.
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 1:01:54 AM

Comments

kay , hi everyone, great meeting on line . i have also had the expierence of doing some 12 step work , and seeing DENIAL rear it,s ugly head, i think that you can plant a small seed and leave the rest to GOD. because ubtil i was ready to accept my disease and be honest with my self, no one could really do much for me. DENIAL is a very strong force and until i got sick and tired of being sick and tired i didn,t want help from any one. but by the grace of GOD i made it to the doors of A.A. AND AM VERY GRATEFUL FOR MY SOBRIETY AND ALL THE PEOPLE THAT HELPED ME. so i am alway,s there when a someone needs the hand of A.A.THANK -YOU ALL FOR MY 24. AND THE SAME TO YOU ALL. KEEP CYBERING AND I,LL KEEP COMING BACK.


Member: AlanH
Location: TN
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 7:50:47 AM

Comments

Hi everyone, just checking in - another 24 behind, another 24 ahead. God, please allow me the courage. Thanks everyone for the support.


Member: ruthie c
Location: georgia
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 8:18:58 AM

Comments

To Peggy B; far be it from me to give advice only being one day sober, but I will say this from my families point of view, there is a time when you have given everything from a physical, mental and spiritual perceptive; and you are drained. What else can you give??

My family has pleaded with me for years to get help, [indignant] [outraged] has always been my response. I don't have this problem? I have almost sacrifice everything with this denial, it has been through the last few days of sharing with people that are experiencing the same thing that I have even come close to finding the cure to my problem...

...Booze has not been my enemy it's been my friend, it's where I go when someone hurts me, betrays be. I fulfill my anger and frustration there. NO ONE but booze shares this place with me. Although at some point I feel satisfied (the booze) the rest of me feels lonely, forgotten and desperate.

My mom and dad taught me alcoholism, some say it is inherited, perhaps. I use to come home from school and my mom would be passed out naked in the living room. I would walk in with my friends and she would be exposed, later she would wake up and not even remember the incident. I did! My friends did!

My point is, if you understand who booze is to your family then with the help of OTHER people you might be able to help. Booze means different things to different people. I guess that means going back to your support meetings.

Hang in there. As I said I (one) day sober and I have an opinion, good or bad it is how I feel.

I believe I can beat this, and I am going to beat this I have beat this today. Yesterday..Today..Tomorrow thanks for sharing that thought with me Suzanne H.

I guess what I am trying to say, is no one can save me, if I don’t want to save myself. That is my first step and from there I need all the help I can get. I have to make the first step, I have to decide that this is a problem - disease that is killing me and killing my relationships, my friendships, family, job, etc.

I think what Nan D said is just perfect for you, have faith in your journey


Member: ruthie c
Location: georgia
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 8:19:17 AM

Comments

To Peggy B; far be it from me to give advice only being one day sober, but I will say this from my families point of view, there is a time when you have given everything from a physical, mental and spiritual perceptive; and you are drained. What else can you give??

My family has pleaded with me for years to get help, [indignant] [outraged] has always been my response. I don't have this problem? I have almost sacrifice everything with this denial, it has been through the last few days of sharing with people that are experiencing the same thing that I have even come close to finding the cure to my problem...

...Booze has not been my enemy it's been my friend, it's where I go when someone hurts me, betrays be. I fulfill my anger and frustration there. NO ONE but booze shares this place with me. Although at some point I feel satisfied (the booze) the rest of me feels lonely, forgotten and desperate.

My mom and dad taught me alcoholism, some say it is inherited, perhaps. I use to come home from school and my mom would be passed out naked in the living room. I would walk in with my friends and she would be exposed, later she would wake up and not even remember the incident. I did! My friends did!

My point is, if you understand who booze is to your family then with the help of OTHER people you might be able to help. Booze means different things to different people. I guess that means going back to your support meetings.

Hang in there. As I said I (one) day sober and I have an opinion, good or bad it is how I feel.

I believe I can beat this, and I am going to beat this I have beat this today. Yesterday..Today..Tomorrow thanks for sharing that thought with me Suzanne H.

I guess what I am trying to say, is no one can save me, if I don’t want to save myself. That is my first step and from there I need all the help I can get. I have to make the first step, I have to decide that this is a problem - disease that is killing me and killing my relationships, my friendships, family, job, etc.

I think what Nan D said is just perfect for you, have faith in your journey


Member: Glen H
Location: Denton, TX
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 9:48:28 AM

Comments

Thanks, Ruthie. We alcoholics have had a devastating effect on our families, particularly the young children. The amends to my teenage boys were the toughest, because there is a lot of emotional damage that can only be repaired with time and God's help, if ever.

We decide to seek sobriety only when the consequences of our actions become painful enough. For some, that's the threat of jail; others just get tired of puking every morning, but no matter where it is, when the consequences become too painful, we decide to change. I used my family just like drugs and alcohol; I didn't stop until there was nothing left.

I might get some disagreement with me on this, and that's ok, but there is ONLY ONE healthy emotional response to living with a practicing alcoholic and that is to leave and/or cut them completely off while they are using.


Member: Susie S.
Location: Dallas, TX
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 2:40:16 PM

Comments

I would like to share my experience with to Peggy B. I had been sober a little over a year and had a child to take care of. I was living with a practicing alcoholic (my first husband). I started going to Al-Anon, and they never told me to leave him, they gave me hope that I could live, happily, whatever I decided to do. I eventually left. I couldn't do it for myself - but I could do it for my child. I had switched addictions - from alcohol to my husband. I am very grateful for the rooms of Al-Anon, along with the rooms of AA. I wish I could tell you that my first husband got sober, but I can't. He is still out there, doing the deal (seven years later). But I am happy to report that my life has improved greatly. It took a long time to be able to forgive him, and there are still days when I can't answer all the questions that my six year old son has about his birth father. However, I have found peace and serenity - and I never thought that would be possible. I also have remarried and have a wonderful husband who is also in this program. Peggy, whatever you decide to do, continue going to Al-Anon. You will find hope. And no matter what you decide, you can learn to find your own happiness. My prayers are with you.


Member: Mark D
Location: Las Vegas, NV
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 3:08:06 PM

Comments

mark here alkie 1-4-93 someone mentioned *getting it*.....well gee, seems to me that in our quest to *get it* we lose sight of the journey...By the Grace of God and the program of AA, I have not had a drink in over 5 years. And I have yet to *get it* myself....And God help me if I ever do. What I get is a daily repreive contigent on the maintenance of a spiritual condition. I still have a desire to quit drinking. Heck, I still have a desire to drink. But the compulsion to drink has been removed. In these rooms I learned that quiting drinking was beyond me. That I would never be able to control and enjoy my drinking. So rather than fight the disease of alcoholism, I surrendeded to it. And I surrendered to the 12 step program of AA. And I never did *quit* drinking. I cannot quit. I am powerless over alcohol. So I share the message of AA as it was shared with me. There is a solution. And that solution is in the 12 Steps of AA. Take the steps as millions have done. The obsession to drink will in all liklihood be removed, and the promises as outlined in the Big Book will come true.


Member: Valerie J.
Location:
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 10:30:04 PM

Comments

Hello ,Im an alcoholic my name is Valerie this is my first coffee pot session and I find it a wonderful way of carrying the message, I always had troble staying sober for more than 3yrs. and i now have a new and diffrent outlook on AA life I love the soberr life and thought my mental illness was the problem now I see that its the way i worked the program and the fellowship. one thing i do is pray and medatate on using AA as my focus and it seems to be working and now i have another family who is sober right in my own house the Web to get me trough when i get lonely and upset this dosen't take presdentence over actually being at an AA meeting out side but it does add something to help me in my times of need. thanks to all of you folks and the rest of the fellowship I have a place to call home.Valerie Wallingford CT.

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Member: Beth
Location: MT
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 10:40:15 PM

Comments

Eric in Missoula,Thanks for doing the orientation last week. I lost your address. please get back to me. Beth P., Garrison agabeth@imine.net


Member: Jerry S
Location: IA
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 10:48:16 PM

Comments

to ruthiC accepting step 1 is the step I had to work 100 per cent, before moving to a power greater that myself. It does get better. patientence aandd a lot of heealth AA. Each dday a neww beginning. yourrs in AA, on alc. to another Jerry


Member: Jerry S
Location: IA
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 10:49:03 PM

Comments

to ruthiC accepting step 1 is the step I had to work 100 per cent, before moving to a power greater that myself. It does get better. patientence aandd a lot of heealth AA. Each dday a neww beginning. yourrs in AA, on alc. to another Jerry


Member: Nan D.
Location: Pocono Mt. Pa
Date: 2/3/98
Time: 11:56:35 PM

Comments

Hi, Nan alkie and drugie here. Ruth C. You may not think you have anything to say as a new commer, but when i listen to you new commers, you help me. Thank you so much for sharing, im sure you helped peggy also. Please keep coming back. It gets better, i can honestly say that. Love to all, and God Bless.


Member: Eric C.
Location: God's back yard
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 12:25:57 AM

Comments

God, grant me Your grace to always reject "good enough" Courage to seek out the "very best" And wisdom to know that it's out there for me.


Member: paul h
Location: wilmington nc
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 9:07:41 AM

Comments

paul a grateful alcoholic this is my first time here and i think this is great!


Member: Suzanne H.
Location: Ontario Canada
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 9:26:06 AM

Comments

Suzanne, alcoholic. Welcome to Valerie J. and Paul H. After reading my meditation this morning I am remembering that it is the "moment" that is important and how each moment holds choice. It could be the moment we go for a walk instead of arguing with our spouse or kids, or it could be the moment we choose to call a friend instead of being alone. Whatever the moment, they all lead us to our Higher Power. Today I will remember that recovery is made up of moments of choice. May you all have a "serene" 24!


Member: davidc
Location: Asheville, NC
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 10:43:22 AM

Comments

Alan...keep it up !!!!! One day at a time.


Member: Susie S.
Location: Dallas, TX
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 11:19:37 AM

Comments

Susie S. here - I just LOVE this place - Welcome to everyone new -Keep coming back!! Love & Peace -


Member: Sandi A
Location: Abbotsford,b.c.
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 12:15:10 PM

Comments

HI,my name is sandi, and I'm an alcoholic/addict.By the grace of god of my understanding,and the 12 steps, I am sober and clean today.This is my first time on the internet coffee pot and would like to say that I was not functioning well with-out the use of drugs and alcohol and I came to realize that this is not living this was just existing at deaths door until it flew open. I have been clean and sober now since march 25/97 and it is just so awesome. I guess I realized that in order to hit bottom, all I had to do is stop digging,once I stopped digging that hole I was getting into deeper and deeper I put the shovel down and came to a.a.since march I am a g.s.r., and am highly involved with any and every function that goes on with a.a. and couldn't be prouder. Today, my sobriety consists of letting go, meetings, service work and living today on lifes terms not mine and letting god help me go through the day by doing things by his will and not mine. In closing I would like to say thank-you all for sharing and have another 24 and I will take one for me...thanks.Sandi A


Member: Jacque R
Location: Nebraska
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 12:19:53 PM

Comments

Peggy B.--Just like an alcoholic will do, those who live with us will attend meetings for the wrong reasons. I guess I'm wondering why you continue to research alcoholism when you are already aware of it's devastating consequences. Right now, you concentrating on your problem instead of your husbands might be more beneficial than finding out why alcoholics continue to drink. Your answers are in Chapter 8 of the Big Book. It begins with an understanding intro followed by characteristics of a manipulator and controller, followed by explanations of an alocoholic and life with one followed by solutions for your dilemma. Chapter 9 reveals the promises to come for a family afterward. Begin with Step 1, Peggy. "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-that our lives had become unmanageable. I don't see anything in that first step that says anything about powerlessness over your husband. You are powerless over the alcohol--period. Good luck!


Member: EMEEKIS
Location: Ontario, Canada
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 12:30:33 PM

Comments

Day three: RuthieC: I was just reading what you wrote about the booze being your only friend. A lot of times when I get so frustrated and depressed, I don't talk to anyone. I just go drinking right away. Then after a good drink, I end up feeling so guilty after the next day, I feel like i've been given another chance and that I can make things right with myself and my son. I know that sounds stupid. But it's almost therapeutic. Okay shoot me for that comment. I think my whole family thinks I am an alcoholic. I guess I am. Why else should I be writing here. I don't know I guess I'm still in denial. I just keep lying to myself. a


Member: susan g
Location: boise,id
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 12:38:51 PM

Comments

Hi all, susan g, thankful recovering alcoholic here...to Nan, we have to help ourselves, if you take too much responsibility for someone else you may be ignoring yourself...no one can fix us, we have to want it enough to work it. also, setting limits seems to be really hard for a lot of us, it is OK to take care of yourself and say no! thanks to everyone for the great sharing, I love you all...keep coming back. sg


Member: PAUL H
Location: WILMINGTON NC
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 1:03:30 PM

Comments

HI PAUL A GRATEFUL ALCOHOLIC I LOVE THIS MEETING IT ALLOWS ME IT ALLOWS ME TO STAY OUT OF THE RAIN YET BE AT A MEETING WHEN I NEED TO BE AT ONE THE MOST. THANKS FOR HAVING ME!


Member: Tommy H
Location: Boston
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 1:05:59 PM

Comments

I just returned from an AA meeting,thank god for AA.My wife is going to Disney sobah,while I stay sobah in beantown.A good life due to AA!! It was not easy got easier and was definately worth it. Take care daily, Sobah in Boston!!!!!!!


Member: Jack C.
Location: Flagstaff, AZ
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 1:34:15 PM

Comments

Hi folks! Jack C.-alcoholic. 1st time at any online AA function. Feeling frustrated searching for a new job and having an "action" problem. Been to lots of meetings lately hoping to hear the right words to help me get off the mark and use my HP given talents. Don't have to drink over it though thanks to all you folks! To all you newcomers-thank you-you remind me where I've been-hope you agree that the worst day sober is 100% better than the best day drunk. Thanks for being here for me.


Member: ShelleI
Location: Austin, TX
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 3:47:09 PM

Comments

Shelle, alcoholic here, not even far enough along to say I am recovering. I don't belong to a group, or have a sponsor, and am looking for ways to help myself. I know I have a problem, and that only my Higher Power can help me - it is out of my control. However, I do have a question which may sound really dumb, but I have been reading all the comments on the "Current Meeting" site and the comments here on "Coffeepot" and I want to know what the 'Big Book' is. It seems to be pretty important to everyone and very helpful. Any other motivating information and techniques and strategies for getting through the problematic times of the day will be very appreciated. Thanks in advance for your assistance, and thanks for being here and listening.


Member: Jo G.
Location: Milford, Connecticut
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 8:40:22 PM

Comments

Jo here alcoholic. Been around the rooms a few 24 hours. Nice to read your thoughts and feelings. Saw some good advice. It really does get easier, but it takes hard work, determination, meetings, prayers, good sober companionship and a minute-by-minute commitment (eek, it's that C word!!!) to not taking that first drink. At the same time, it's really very simple; you just don't drink and you go to meetings. See ya.


Member: mark d
Location: las vegas, nv
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 9:15:33 PM

Comments

Shelle.....here is a really good link, follow it http://www.primenet.com/~bbbunch at the bottom of this page is a link to the Big Book (the basic text of AA). I cannot however stress enuf the importance of picking up the phone, dialing up AA, and finding a meeting in your area to get to. The "problematic times of the day"..."motivating information and techniques and stratigies" can all be found at any face to face meeting. Computerized AA is no substitute for human contact. God Bless and get yer ... to a meeting.


Member: Dennis P.S.P.
Location: Post Oak, Houston, TX
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 9:34:27 PM

Comments

ShelleI,

Here is the # to A.A. Intergroup in Austin, Texas is (512)442-0815 call them, find a real meeting in your area, go to it, find the WOMAN in the room with the longest time sober and get her phone number... While your there ask for a copy of the Big Book and the Twelve and Twelve. If your serious about not drinking you will do this tomorow.

Log back on tomorow and tell us how it went.


Member: Diane K.
Location: PA
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 10:04:54 PM

Comments

Hi everyone! I am Diane and alcoholic. I am thrilled to be here. I was looking for 4th step inventory info. This is great! I read some of your comments and got a lot out of them. Thank you all. I believe I will keep coming back.


Member: mark d
Location: las vegas, nv
Date: 2/4/98
Time: 10:34:43 PM

Comments

well dern, the link to the Big Book Text isn't operational....dern! well the rest of the link is still pretty good....sorry


Member: Stacey
Location: Seattle, WA
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 1:05:23 AM

Comments

Hi, Stacey here,alcoholic/addict/garbage can. I have 31 days today, and I feel excited and anxious. I had reached a point in my life before admitting powerlessness over boose that I could care less if I lived or not. Today I feel blessed to be alive and with aclear head to put words together. every day is a new challenge and I am ready to conquer lifes obstacles. Thank-You for being here for me. Nothing happens in God's world by mistake. pg. 449


Member: Kerry B.
Location: Idaho
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 2:53:04 AM

Comments

Kerry, alcoholic. Let me re-phrase something I wrote earlier to Peggy B. - Jacgue in Nebraska is absolutely right - us ALCOHOLICS are powerless over alcohol. I did not mean that you couldnt do anything to remedy your situation ie: you have to do whatever your husband wants because your powerless over him. I merely meant that you could not make him do what you want him to do. So, excuse me Peggy and Jacque, I forgot that when I was new almost 18 years ago that I took everything so literally, and had to have pictures drawn so that I might understand better. By the way, I have found that in my experience I'm quite powerless over alot of things, not just alcohol. People, places, things etc The list is endless, thank God I just have to take care of the stuff I do have power over, mainly my attitudes, actions, and reactions to Life of Life's terms. KCB. It works..


Member: Glen H
Location: Denton, TX
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 9:27:45 AM

Comments

I think the original question was what made us wake up and decide to get sober. To paraphrase the book, I think the only honest answer that we have to that question is that we're not really sure. If we knew how to convince people that they're screwing up their lives with drugs and alcohol our success rate would be a lot better than it is. So, we leave it up to God.

It seems to me, though, that if we dig down deep enough, our greatest fear of all is being all alone. If that's true, maybe those who say they came to AA because they had no place left to go are right. Booze was not only my best friend but it was also my only friend.

Having had a spiritual awakening as THE result of these steps, I know today that I am never alone.


Member: Jacque R.
Location: Nebraska
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 9:48:47 AM

Comments

Hi Kerry, I absolutely love your state, especially up north and often wonder why I don't live there! After going to many a face to face meeting, I often see pre-al-anons come in with their spouse and just sit soaking up all the info they can about why alcoholics do what they do. It's nice to show them sober ones, but I also feel we are doing them an injustice by letting them stay. They need to get to Al-Anon meetings to start their own program, then come visit us all they want. We always tell them that they can't help the alcoholic, yet insist we can somehow help them by telling them all about alcoholism. Seems they already know about it. Gotta walk the walk if we're going to talk the talk. I've always surrounded myself with inablers and caretakers and find it very dangerous to my sobriety to allow one to start "caring and analizing" me. I know some very strong Al-anons and love them dearly because of their incredible programs. Hey, some of them are my best friends! (heeheehee) Anyway, enough of the soap box. I totally agree about drawing pictures...I still need them and I think it's wonderful to meet an old-timer like you who can draw me some. Thanks so much for being here,I really appreciate it. (I'm going on 10 years....doesn't that sound better than I have 9 years! *grin*)(I know, I know, 1 day at a time)


Member: susan g
Location: boise
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 9:50:23 AM

Comments

Love to you all, susan g alcoholic here...thankful for one more day! The thing that helps me the most is letting go of everything that gets in the way of working my program...staying sober is my foundation...hey stacey, congrats on 31 days, it keeps getting better and we are all glad you are here with us, keep up the good work and keep coming back! <Mark d> yes, FTF is best, but anyway a person can work it is better than hopelessness, of course, hugs are good! later, s


Member: Paul C
Location: Antioch CA
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 12:59:42 PM

Comments

Hi Group,

Alkie Paul on-line here.

To Nan: Sounds like a tough 12 step call. Try to get a copy of the Dec 1997 edition of the Grapevine. The topic is "Working with Wet Ones" I think you'll find some useful information in there that might help you out. God Bless you in your service. Would you like some cream and sugar with that cup of coffee? :)

Keep Coming Back!


Member: davidc
Location: Asheville, NC
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 4:10:44 PM

Comments

Go Stacey....Go Stacey.....Go Stacey.......

Shelle..."The Big Book" is Alcoholics Annonymous. You can pick one up at a meeting, or contact AA Centrel Office in your area by checking the phone book.

Oh, by the way I am a drunk named David.

Namaste


Member: Susan H
Location: London UK
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 4:16:17 PM

Comments

Hello fellow members. I have enjoyed reading the comments and got some good messages. It helps me to get in the AA groove to read these things. It also means I can be in a meeting at home at the same time as being with my daughter. I agree that the real live face to face meetings are more important and that computer cyberiaty is no substitute for live people. Still it gives me more contact with AA than I would otherwise get.

Thank you for being here. I have had a little trouble getting through to this weeks meeting on balance. It isn't loading right now.

My higher power has stepped in to protect me from making some hasty decisions at work this week. HP has also helped me to deal with some very difficult and bad mannered people with some degree of serenity.

I am 3 and a half years away from a drink and the first honeymoon period had become a very real and functioning and aware time for me. It is hard work but satisfying as I can no longer kid myself into believing the easy way out is OK.

I still haven't done my step 4 !!! I have downloaded some software that may help. I want to make a start and will probably use the computer as a medium.

Thank you for being here. Love Susan


Member: Danielle L.
Location: Hull, Québec
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 4:26:20 PM

Comments

Hi Susan H.

I didn't do the 4th either and would appreciate knowing where you went to download this software.

Thanks.


Member: ShelleI
Location: Austin, TX
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 5:06:37 PM

Comments

Hello, its ShelleI again, the wannabe recovering alcoholic. Thanks to Dennis, Mark, and David for your quick and helpful responses. Dennis, I tried the number that you gave but the poor lady I talked to seemed truly puzzled at my question about meeting times and locations, so after doublechecking to be sure I had dialed the correct number, I got out the phonebook and found several to call. I also have a counselor friend getting a list of meeting places for me. I am trying to find one close to the office so I can go during my lunch hour. My spouse, who has never mentioned any concern about my having a problem would not understand at all if I were to tell him where I was going and in fact would be horrified and embarrassed! So I need to go at lunch so I can keep it personal. Mark, the link worked fine for me and thanks. For now, I am heading home to a cup of hot tea, straight! It just won't be the same as a glass or two of wine, but I will be much happier with myself in the morning. Thanks again for being there and for the help.


Member: Susie S.
Location: Dallas, TX
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 5:34:21 PM

Comments

Hi Family - Susie S. here. To Shelle: Five things my sponser told me to do EVERYDAY: 1. Hit your knees in the morning and say, "HELP ME" 2. Go to a meeting 3. Call your sponser 4. Read the literature (AA Big Book, Daily Meditation, etc) 5. Hit your knees at night and say, "THANK YOU" This was really simple and really helped me. I do agree that "face to face" is best, but I'll take my recovery wherever I can get it. Love & Peace to everyone!!!


Member: Diane K.  
Location: PA
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 6:36:50 PM

Comments

Hi everyone...alcoholic here. Susan S. thanks for sharing the 5steps your sponsor share with you. I love having a sponsor makes a huge difference in my recovery. I tried to do it on my own my own way and keeping my invovment with AA at a minimume. I stayed sober for 4 years. Relapsed last winter and God willing I will celebrate a Year in march. My way didn't work and it didn't get any better out there. If anything it was worse. I thank God everyday for helping me find my way back. I hit my knees every morning with the 3rd step pray.

Susan H. I too am looking on the internet for a 4th step guide. Someone gave me a copy of a 4th step inventory and said he found it on the inter-net. If you can help I would appreciate it. Thank you everyone.

u i


Member: sandi a
Location: B.C.
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 9:19:53 PM

Comments

TO PEGGY B< All I can say is that if I was going to give any information at all, I guess it would be a little thing to think about which is this... DRUGS AND ALCOHOL MAY NOT OF KILLED ME, BUT THEY DID TAKE MY LIFE...Think about it.sandi


Member: sandi a
Location: B.C.
Date: 2/5/98
Time: 9:20:30 PM

Comments

TO PEGGY B< All I can say is that if I was going to give any information at all, I guess it would be a little thing to think about which is this... DRUGS AND ALCOHOL MAY NOT OF KILLED ME, BUT THEY DID TAKE MY LIFE...Think about it.sandi


Member: Dennis P.S.P.
Location: Post Oak, Houston, TX
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 12:07:32 AM

Comments

ShelleI,

You REALLY, REALLY NEED to get a sponsor! A sponsor is just a woman with long term QUALITY recovery who can guide you through the Steps and Big Book and help you deal with that internal "committee" we all have in our heads that screw things up in our lives. You are going to run into MAJOR problems trying to keep your recovery from your spouse! Often times, we, as alcoholics, were the last to know how far down we had progressed in our disease. Our spouses, employers, parents, children and community often knew long before we did that we had a drinking problem. We tend to be lousy at hiding the wreckage we create while we are out there. Sharing you recovery with your spouse will be a cornerstone to your recovery. Read the chapters "To Wives" and "The Family Afterward" only switch the genders where appropriate. If you try to hide the meetings you may arrouse suspicion and jealousy in your husband that may come back to you and sabotage all the work you are doing. Get a FEMALE sponsor and sort out the details with her SOON!

As for tea, try Constant Comment by Bigelow... GOOD STUFF!!! And, by the way... who ever drank just "a glass or two of wine?" and let all the rest just SIT in the bottle? One is too many and a thousand never enough.

Also try to remember... that we are not BAD people trying to get GOOD... We are just SICK people trying to get WELL. We are good... Keep coming back.


Member: mark d
Location: Las Vegas, NV
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 12:12:42 AM

Comments

it be real hard to get to the liquor store on yer knees.

Shelle....glad to hear you are doing footwork...and Rule 62.one foot in front of the other, and take the next indicated step.....that link I mentioned earlier has step guides at it....not AA approved of course, but well thought out and posted with love.....may we always remember Step One...


Member: mark d
Location: las vegas< NV
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 12:16:32 AM

Comments

oh yea, that looks good (duh) ....may we always remember Step One and Rule 62.....don't know how I got it so scrambled (grin)


Member: Dennis P.S.P.
Location: Post Oak, Houston, TX
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 12:17:21 AM

Comments

P.S.

We may all be different distances from our LAST drink and drug... but we are all the same distance from our NEXT drink or drug... and the farthest anyone can stay away from the next drink or drug is 12 STEPS and that 12th Step tends to carry us the farthest. I need to carry the MESSAGE and not the MESS.

Sorry, I just needed to say that for myself.


Member: PATL
Location: KANSAS CITY MO
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 6:57:51 AM

Comments

Hi,Pat L here, alkie,druggie,master of excuses. On my way to work, rushed, thinking about all the people here that have given me all the signs to watch for. I'm trying to slow down so I can reflect or remember the NEXT CORRECT THING TO DO. Today is Friday,Today I will go to a meeting. A friend in here sent me an email,told me to get my butt to a meeting.I started out going every morning. Now I have a GREAT new job, and my BALANCE or focus is out of wack,and have only been attending Friday night meetings. This person knows me better than I know myself. This is scarey,today I am sober. I need to keep it simple. I need to put my sobriety 1st. In all this rushing madness of new job and shedule, I must stop and get focused on getting back to the meetings. I feel I am starting all over again because the people are all different. I was getting used to the morning folks. GEEZ LOOK HOW MANY TIMES I SAID I !!! Sorry, right now, I am selfish,self centered because I know from what ya'll have told me, I'm in a danger zone. Today I will concentrate on finding a meeting for my lunch hr. in addition to the Friday nights. Next week should be different and will be able to make more than just one meeting a week. How did I lose the priorty of putting AA first? I know better. 24hrs at a time. This 24 hrs, I promise myself to be good to myself and take myself to a myself meeting. Sounds crazy. Talk to ya'll later. Thanks for being here. DIRTYFERTY@HOTMAIL.COM


Member: Glen H
Location: Denton,Tx
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 9:17:31 AM

Comments

There is a 4rth step helper at

http://www.recovery.org/aa/PDF/step4.html

You'll need to download Adobe PDF (free) first. I haven't used it, so you're on your own. Personally, I prefer a notebook, pen and Big Book as the only guide, although most every step speaker I've heard hands out a format. out.

Remember, step 3 "has little permanent effect unless followed at once" by step 4.


Member: Jacque R.
Location: Nebraska
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 10:02:02 AM

Comments

Dennis P S P - Thanks, I needed to hear that.


Member: ShelleI
Location: Austin, TX
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 10:24:25 AM

Comments

ShelleIAlcoholic here, 24 hours behind me and 12 hours into the next 24. I am taking all your comments and suggestions to heart and simply acting on them without THINKING TOO MUCH at this point. I have a question - when I get to a meeting how do I find a sponsor, or just what is the process? Though it is the most terrifying part of all, I have faith that the answers to how to discuss where I am with my spouse will come. Enough of "I" and "me". Thanks for your time, comments, and suggestions. This site is a blessing, and I have passed it on already to someone else. God's blessings to all of you.


Member: Susie S.
Location: Dallas, TX
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 10:35:47 AM

Comments

Happy Friday everyone!!! It's a GREAT day to be sober!! I don't mean to sound so "Polyanna" but I have so much gratitude for my recovery!!

I don't get to visit this website during the weekend, because my computer is at work, but I love visiting in the morning and at lunch time to read everyone's "experience, strength and hope".

To Diane K. - glad you found your way back - you go girl!! A Sponsor makes a HUGE difference in my recovery too - I still talk to mine almost every day. Have a GREAT weekend everybody - see you back here on Monday

Love and Peace, Susie S.


Member: Susie S
Location: Dallas
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 10:44:19 AM

Comments

To Shelle: Pray and ask God to help you find a sponsor. You know what the old saying is, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." But also take ACTION. GO TO A MEETING. LISTEN. See if there is a WOMAN who has something to say that you can relate to. Then, after the meeting, GO TO THAT WOMAN, and ask her to be your sponsor and help you work the steps. YOU CAN DO IT!!


Member: LOUIS L
Location: GATINEAU,QUBEC,CANADA
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 12:27:30 PM

Comments

HI! LOUIS,A DRUNK.JUST HAPPY TO BE HERE.READING ALL YOUR COMMENTS HELP'S ME GET BY AND STAY SOBER ONE MORE DAY.KEEP WRITTING IT WORKS. THANKS.


Member: susan g
Location: boise
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 1:53:34 PM

Comments

susan g here, TRA, when starting my recovery program my husband and family didn't understand what the "problem" was. part of my recovery became educating those around me so i could incorporate them into my support system. it worked and i am blessed with a family that kicks my butt when i need it and gives me positive strokes when i ask. Shelle- don't let other people's perceptions/prejudices interfere with what you need to do. leave shame in the bottle! love yourself enough to be open and honest...remember the rules of dysfunction are don't talk don't trust don't feel...the rules of healthy functioning must be the exact opposite. Thank you all for being here...i need you and appreciate all the insights. Keep coming back. sg


Member: susan g
Location: boise
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 1:54:21 PM

Comments

susan g here, TRA, when starting my recovery program my husband and family didn't understand what the "problem" was. part of my recovery became educating those around me so i could incorporate them into my support system. it worked and i am blessed with a family that kicks my butt when i need it and gives me positive strokes when i ask. Shelle- don't let other people's perceptions/prejudices interfere with what you need to do. leave shame in the bottle! love yourself enough to be open and honest...remember the rules of dysfunction are don't talk don't trust don't feel...the rules of healthy functioning must be the exact opposite. Thank you all for being here...i need you and appreciate all the insights. Keep coming back. sg


Member: susan g
Location: boise
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 1:54:32 PM

Comments

susan g here, TRA, when starting my recovery program my husband and family didn't understand what the "problem" was. part of my recovery became educating those around me so i could incorporate them into my support system. it worked and i am blessed with a family that kicks my butt when i need it and gives me positive strokes when i ask. Shelle- don't let other people's perceptions/prejudices interfere with what you need to do. leave shame in the bottle! love yourself enough to be open and honest...remember the rules of dysfunction are don't talk don't trust don't feel...the rules of healthy functioning must be the exact opposite. Thank you all for being here...i need you and appreciate all the insights. Keep coming back. sg


Member: Jim H
Location:
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 5:18:05 PM

Comments

I'm Jim , and I am an alcoholic. One of the many situations i ran into in early recovery was that i tried to remember EVERYTHING people were saying to me.I tried to remember all the AA sayings, good quotes I heard,every suggestion anyone had to give me, EVERYTHING! But one day, after 5 years of trying to do and say everything right,some one said to me,STOP." From today on just do what you can, just for today,and sometimes that was only "don't pick up'". I couldn't be two years sober in two days. I see some people here in this room wanting what I did." Time." To all of our new friends in recovery; Put the plug in the jug and go to meetings. We must keep it simple. Our lives were very complicated before because we wanted it that way. The more complicated our lives were, the more reasons we had to drink. So keep things simple, and all your answers will be answered in time.TIME=" This I Must Earn" Thank's for letting me share.


Member: LOUIS L
Location: GAT,QUEBEC CANADA
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 10:02:50 PM

Comments

LOUIS AGAIN,ALAN-RUTHIE-KARYN,DO IT FOR YOURSELVES AND GIVE YOURSELVES A CHANCE,IT WORKS.GOOD LUCK .KEEP IN TOUCH.I NEED YOU GUYS.


Member: Nan D.
Location: Pocono Mt. Pa
Date: 2/6/98
Time: 10:41:38 PM

Comments

hi family Nan here alkie & druggie. I just stopped in for a few just to catch up. Stacey congrads, you seem to be doing great, keep coming. Shelle, I wish you the best congrads on your first 24, and it can keep going on. Try to make as many meetings as you can, and good luck to you too. I have no great words of wisdom, cause they have all been said, and very well I might add. Thank you all for being here, just wanted to stay connected. Love to all and God Bless Nan.


Member: LorraineS
Location: Concerned corner of Canada
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 12:16:33 AM

Comments

Hi Pat L. I am going to risk a friendship and try to save a life. Pick up your socks, stop feeling sorry for yourself and get your butt to those meetings. Excuses won't cut it... because this my friend is life or death... you know you will die if you don't make your sobriety your NUMBER ONE PRIORITY.

What good will you be to yourself or anyone around you if you are drowning in a bottle?

You are a wonderful person who deserves sobriety and all of the wonderful gifts it has to offer. You have already experienced MANY... be GRATEFUL.

You have read the promises in the Big Book and you know that they will come true. Be patient, be kind to yourself, stay sober.

Love ya Pat.


Member: Dennis P.S.P.
Location: Post Oak, Houston, TX
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 12:16:57 AM

Comments

You know... I've been drunk... and I've been sober... Sober is better. Trust in the process... The whole thing here in A.A. is it's about the JOURNEY... The destination is not important. I KNOW how to get loaded and all lit up... I'll never forget it... But this IS the "easier softer way." Sobriety HAS to be better or knowing me, I'd go get drunk again. I still struggle, but not against the bottle anymore. My struggles are mostly against self will and selfishness... GOD... I may not be much... But I'm all I ever think about!!! Once I grabbed a hold of the tools this program has to offer, my life improved a thousand fold. I'm a very low-bottom drunk... when I'm drinking. Now, I am many other things I never DREAMED of being... a faithfull husband, father, den-leader, employee, SPONSOR... none of these wonderfull things would have any meaning if I turned back to alcohol to "solve" or "disolve" my problems, and all my problems would have kittens. Alcohol acts like "Miracle Grow" on my problems! Sobriety has been very, very good to me. I thank God for y'all and A.A. especially the Newcomers! Thanks! I gotta go get some more coffee and a cigarette... My wife doesn't allow smoking in the house so for me, this is the best non-smoking meeting I have ever been to and that says a lot... I tend to hate non-smoking meetings.


Member: LorraineS
Location: Concerned corner of Canada
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 12:17:00 AM

Comments

Hi Pat L. I am going to risk a friendship and try to save a life. Pick up your socks, stop feeling sorry for yourself and get your butt to those meetings. Excuses won't cut it... because this my friend is life or death... you know you will die if you don't make your sobriety your NUMBER ONE PRIORITY.

What good will you be to yourself or anyone around you if you are drowning in a bottle?

You are a wonderful person who deserves sobriety and all of the wonderful gifts it has to offer. You have already experienced MANY... be GRATEFUL.

You have read the promises in the Big Book and you know that they will come true. Be patient, be kind to yourself, stay sober.

Love ya Pat.


Member: Sherry  G.
Location: Wichita,KS.
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 12:24:54 AM

Comments

Hi everyone, Sherry G. here alkie. Thanks for all the comments and sugestions. They have helped me stay sober one more evening. I don't get to meeting like I should and I'm really happy that my HP helped me find this area. I've been sober 24 days and would like to make another day. I will keep coming back. Thanks everyone. Sherry G.


Member: Dennis P.S.P.
Location: Post Oak, Houston, TX
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 12:29:59 AM

Comments

Lorraine S.

A neat trick I heard was to shove my shoes onder my bed each night to force me on my knees in the morning to retrieve them! While I'm down there... a prayer might be in order... just a simple "please" in the morning and a "thanks" at night will do... nothng formal, but it served as a start.


Member: Dennis P.S.P.
Location: Post Oak, Houston, TX
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 12:36:07 AM

Comments

Rock-N-Roll Sherry G!!!

But make a meeting tomorow anyway... Did you ever say to yourself "Gee... I'm so buisy... I don't have TIME to drink..."

No. I didn't think so... we made time to drink, now we can make time for a meeting. I stayed drunk for MONTHS on end... an hour a day isn't much to invest for a new chance on life.


Member: dante L
Location: LA,CA
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 4:21:31 AM

Comments

This coffee? is it decaf? I hope not. staying sober, thanx


Member: MARK.B
Location: BRECKENRIDGE Tx
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 12:42:44 PM

Comments

GLAD I FOUND U. MY NAME IS MARK AND I'M AN ALCOHOLIC. SOBRIETY DATE: 24/JAN/98 WILL AD MORE IN FUTURE


Member: Darlene J
Location: Toledo, Ohio
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 6:20:04 PM

Comments

hi Darlene and i'm an alcoholic. This is my first visit to this site and I really am impressed with it. I definitely will return. I have been sober for 12+ yrs and attend the A&R meetings reguarly. I have met alot of people online with mega sobriety. I have witnessed some 12 step calls online. I cannot say enough about all of the online AA help I have received. Thank you all for being here when I've needed to sound off Thanks for listening and for being a friend.


Member: Mike Ott
Location: Pontiac, Michigan
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 10:30:03 PM

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Hi.....believe this is my second post here. Sure is nice to read these posts..always get something out of it...nice that we all all of this help..doubt they had it in the 30s and 40s and 50s and 60s and 70s. I hope that we are all grateful for the things we have in AA as I am..most of the time


Member: Sherry G.
Location: Wichita, Ks.
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 10:36:51 PM

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Hi everyone--Sherry G. here and I am an alcoholic. Thanks Dennis P.S.P. I took your advice and made TIME for a meeting. You really hit where it hurts. You got ME! Thanks again.

This is the 2nd time I've been on here and I love it. Hope everyone keeps coming back.


Member: Dennis P.S.P.
Location: Post Oak, Houston, TX
Date: 2/7/98
Time: 11:48:03 PM

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Sherry G,

Hey, what are friends for? I have to remember the first word in the Steps constantly... "We" It's a "we" program not an "I" thing. "I" get drunk... "We" stay sober. This place is great, but as so many others put it, it is rather difficult to make eye contact or get hugs in Cyberspace. THERE IS NO SUBSTITUTE for a REAL meeting!

I do not believe that the creators of this website ever intended for it to be one... this is just another tool, and a very welcome one I might add, to my recovery kit.

Tools are important. I need to collect as many as I can to stay sober.For instance, If the only tool in my tool kit is a hammer, I'll tend to see every problem as a nail. That won't work too well in my life when I'm feeling screwed.

We also invest in ourselves when we pass the message. In the future, when I get down in the dumps, maybe you will be the one to say the right thing to me!

I'll be back tomorow. See ya then!