Member: Brandy
Location: G
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 09:00 AM

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Sorry, this is off topic, but I'm definitely new to sobriety (this is my 5th day) and I have a family bbq to go to tonight where the booze will be flowing. No-one (at least the older generation) will critize me for not drinking, and probably the ones in my age group (almost 40) won't either since they've seen me at my "finest" too often as well, but I just don't know how I'm going to handle being there. I have already planned my "way out" if necessary, but I'm not real sure yet that I want to admit out loud to anyone (except hubby) that I'm an alcoholic. I'm afraid if I do, and fall off the program, and back in the mud that they'll think even less of me than they do now. Anyone got any suggestions other than drowning myself in club soda? I've had so much water and iced tea and club soda in the last week that I think I'll float away, and unfortunately I don't care for pop much. Maybe I'll have to learn to drink it? I'm running out of alternatives. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'll be in and out several times today - this does seem to help.


Member: Jack H
Location: Orlando
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 09:20 AM

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Hi Brandy, and Everyone else. My name is Jack and I'll always be an alcoholic. Don't worry too much about the family bbq. I've found, over the years that anticipation is always much worse than the actual event. When offered a drink, I find that a simple "No, thanks" seems to work best. Remeber that, with God's help, you can easily turn those 5 days into six. When you go to the BBQ see how much fun you can have without drinking. Leave yourself a way out and, if you get really uncomfortable, develop a "headache" so you will have to leave. That way the other folks won't be offended. Hang in there. We're rooting for you. Jack (jack0413@kua.net)


Member: Brandy G
Location: Toronto
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 09:29 AM

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Jack, Thanks for your input and good wishes. Most of these family members are my old drinking buddies, and while I'd like to change my playground/playmates in this case it's impossible. They'll find it VERY strange for me not to be drinking as the only time they've ever known that is when I was pregnant. Hopefully they won't question it too much. I'll let you know how it goes! And yes, a headache is a good thing - I'm close enough to walk home, leaving hubby/kids to come home later if necessary (or hitch a ride with someone else). Of course, it's school tomorrow so I can always plead early-night for the kids too.... Here's hoping I make it!


Member: BillR
Location: East Coast
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 10:52 AM

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I'm checking in to take one day at a time. Today I'm grateful for not drinking. I'm okay with that. THanks.


Member: Tami R
Location: NH
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 11:19 AM

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Brandy- you cant worry about anything anyone has to say about this decision. You should be very proud and I am sure most would support your decision.


Member: AZbill
Location: Sierra Vista, Arizona
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 11:33 AM

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Hi. Bill here, alcoholic from Arizona. Posting in the spirit of our Preamble. I put down my last drink on a Friday afternoon. The following Thursday a man came up to me and asked if I really really had not had a drink. It was true. He told me his story. We wound up at an AA meeting that night. Now there was only one meeting a week at that time and it was on a Thursday. Is this a God Shot or what? :) I had no car nor a license to drive. No job. No family. Living in a converted chicken coop. And did not believe AA would work for me. But I was sober for one week. At the end of that meeting, my friend came up to me with a Big Book in his hand and said, "I believe this thing will work and I am moving in with you tomorrow and we are going to give it a try." He moved in the next day and we both got into action. We started through the Steps together. He was my first sponsor. I was sober one week him sober one day. That was over 20 years ago and we are both sober today. You see on the day before I had stopped drinking, he did not know how. I had something he wanted. That evening, He believed that the program would work and I did not. He had something I wanted. Don't let anyone tell you you are not ready to start the program of recovery. Brandy; On page 101 in "Alcoholics Anonymous, it will explain the rule (that AA does not have. he he he) in your situation. Read it to the end of the chapter. Early on I set down one hard and fast rule for myself. If I were to be in a place where there was booze, I drove myself. I did not ride with anyone nor did I take anyone. I always had a way out. Always had an escape route. I was at these functions for good reasons. Usually it was continuing education with a lecture and a sit down dinner and a cash bar. I was well into recovery at the time. I broke my rule once. I rode "with a group of my colleagues" They stayed after and continued to drink at the bar. I did not drink nor did I want to. But I did become very bored . LOL and wanted out of there. Thank you for being a part of my sobriey today. Bill email: az-bill@mindspring.com


Member: Gage
Location: LA
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 12:19 PM

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I'm Gage. I'm an alcoholic. I had two experiences within a couple of weeks of one another that involved having to be in a drinking situation. They both happened when I was in my first couple of months of sobriety, and they had everything to do with my coming to believe that AA is in fact a spiritual program, and most importantly, that it would work for me. (I'm very grateful for these experiences, although at the time, I was terrified of going through them.) The first was an art opening in New Orleans that I was committed to attend. I was there, (not drinking and very nervous), when I noticed familiar face in the room. It was a guy whom I'd been in a meeting with earlier that week. I didn't really know him, I just recognized him, but I gravitated his way. Without our saying anything about it, the guy seemed to understand why I was hanging close to him and I felt very assured by his presence. We both made it through fine, and actually I had a nice time chatting with him. We had a quiet but clear understanding of one another. I have never believed his being there was a coincidence. The second experience was also an art opening, and this time I asked a fellow AA if he'd go with me. He did, and the same sort of feeling of being protected was with me all that evening. I also noticed something that evening that I'd never in all my years of drinking noticed before. I used to assume that anyone who had a glass in his or her hand was drinking the way I did when I was at something like a party. It's not true. That brings to mind what our book says about the thousands of ways we deceive ourselves. Anyway, these experiences helped sell me on the idea that AA works. At the same time, I know that it only works because I've earnestly wanted it to work, and I've earnestly tried to do the steps to the best of my ability. Everyone, just be honest with yourselves. You may find like I did, that as long as you are really trying, something or someone will take over where you can not. You can call it anything you like, but I believe once you experience it, you will undoubtedly know that it is real. Keep yourselves open for it, and do your part. Love to you all.


Member: Linda G
Location: Toronto
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 12:50 PM

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I wanted to apologize for my choice of handle in my previous post (Brandy) - as I said in the discussion room, I've always been Brandysnap on the 'net and just went with that handle, unthinkingly. I am changing to Linda G. just so I'm not offending anyone - it really was an unconscious act, and I don't want to rub any one the wrong way. SORRY!


Member: Melissa B.
Location: Canada
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 01:11 PM

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I know it's a big, big deal to us when we stop drinking, but it never failed to surprise me at social occasions with family or with friends, that other people really don't care whether we drink or whether we don't. I remember arming myself with an answer for every question I was sure I'd be asked, and no one ever said a word. Also, as a fellow commented already, most people don't drink the way we do, we just think they do. (((Linda)))), go for the food, go for the company go for a few laughs, and then go home when you've had enough. Ask that mysterious Higher Power for help not only to not drink, but to have fun, too. Welcome to sobriety, welcome to recovery, and definitely welcome to a more 'fun' life. (What's the weather like in Toronto? A BBQ? Wow.....) It's misty and foggy and cool here on the other side of Canada. Tons of love.


Member: Shauna S.
Location: Maryland
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 03:43 PM

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Hi my name is Shauna and I am an alcoholic. I would just like to say thank you to everyone for sharing there comments. They help me minute by minute right now. I just was looking through the grapevine and I found this website and decided to check it out. I have found that my higher power keeps working everyday in my life. I thought that when I got into this program that I would just do it for a little while and then I would stop. But I see now that I have found my place in the world. I have been sober now for nearly three months and in my life everyday is a struggle. You see I live with an alcoholic uncle and cousin so everyday I am exposed to drinking. But I look to my higher power for the answers and he always seems to give me just what I need when I need it. I can't go to a meeting today so when I found this I know that my higher power put it there for me to find today. Funny how that happens isn't it? I began by going to just three meetings a week now I am attending 5. I think that I will be coming here often now that I have found a way to reach out when I am home. Thanks for sharing your experiences with me. I'll keep coming back.


Member: Ryan S
Location: So. California
Date: October 20, 2002
Time: 11:01 PM

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i am an alkie. i have 18 days. email me. i'm in outpatient treatment in ca. prsplayr@aol.com


Member: Linda G
Location: Toronto
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 07:07 AM

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To All! I made it thru the bbq last night, drinking only ice-water or coke (straight - wow, what a concept!). I was offered a drink a time or two, but a simple "no thanks, I'm fine" sufficed and no-one commented. Now I'm sure a lot of people NOTICED, but chose not to mention it. You know, it was nice to stick MY hand out for the keys to drive home (usually hubby was DD) and it was nice to actually REMEMBER ALL of the get-together. Melissa - it was butt-cold, that's what it was!! *L* The men congregated outside (huddled in coats) and cooked, while the women sat in the warm and yakked! *S* We're die-hards, us Canadians, aren't we! *S* Day 6...and counting!


Member: Joe P
Location: Chicago
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 11:33 AM

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My name is Joe, and I am an alcoholic. On the topic of getting active in AA, for me this happened by attending a lot of meetings (daily) early on and getting a sponsor who is active in AA. He made sure I “volunteered” for the appropriate activities. Eventually, I began to want to be involved in AA, and even seeing that my sponsees “volunteer”. Regarding drinking situations, there have been really great shares on having a way out and others present for support. After some time and practice with the principles contained in the 12 Steps, drinking places and people do become easier to deal with. This past weekend, I attended a high school reunion where there was plenty of drinking. I had no desire to drink alcohol, myself. But I had my wife along who knows I am in recovery, and made 5 meetings in the days prior, including that morning, and have been practicing the 12 Steps under my sponsors guidance for a couple years. Had I been in early sobriety and all alone at the reunion, I may have had a difficult time not drinking. Joe – joep041699@mindspring.com


Member: Chris H.
Location: KS
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 01:02 PM

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Chris, an alcoholic here. This site is my main source of being active right now as I've yet to find any AA meetings around where I live. I haven't given up on that yet though and have feelers out. Barring that, I plan to be active here and try to make some of the online meetings. For those of you with f2f meetings, I am so jealous. I think I could go more than 3-4 days if I had even a weekly f2f to go to. I'll just have to do it with the help I get here. Thanks for being here.


Member: Craig L (Dogmanor@yahoo.com)
Location: Aloha, Oregon
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 04:01 PM

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While I drank I was a slug. At the end I didn’t have the energy to get out of bed to pee. My sponsor was a service junkie. Every time I called to whine, he asked “what had I done for AA today?” I didn’t like it but I was done fighting. So I started to look for service opportunities. I was socially inept and projected a “don’t tread on me” attitude. I wanted everyone to come to me on my terms. It has been a painful process to get over myself and start reaching out to others and getting involved in the groups. Today I am humbled by the gifts of fellowship and purpose I have been given. Chris H, we can all have recovery no matter what our perceived limitations, get the books (“Alcoholics Anonymous” and “The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions”) find some cyber friends here to communicate with daily and discuss what you read.


Member: Linda G
Location: Toronto
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 05:55 PM

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Chris H - I also haven't approached a f2f meeting yet. Not because I can't find one, but I'm hoping to be able to do this alone (with all you guys' help of course - so "alone" doesn't really mean "alone" does it?). This the very first SERIOUS time I've tried quitting. It's been a habit of well over 20 years now - it went hand-in-hand with daily pot use - I've given that up recently on my own. I quit smoking about 14 years ago, so I'm HOPING I have the will-power and perseverance to do this now that I have dedicated myself to it. I am doing alot of reading about AA on the 'net and who knows - one day I may make that first f2f meeting. Or if I'm REALLY lucky, I'll find I can do this on my own. I know alot of you are going to tell me that I "need" to do a f2f meeting in order to make things easier on myself - my answer would be, when have I EVER made things easier, rather than harder?? *G* If I took the easier way out, I wouldn't even be contemplating quitting a life-time habit. (3rd one, so far for me if you count smoking/pot). Day 7 and counting!


Member: Mike W.
Location: Hillsdale Mi. USA
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 07:36 PM

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Dear Linda from Toronto.. I Think you'll find this web site helpfull . I would highly recomend meetings if your serious about staying sober.. Check out ...: www.aatoronto.org you've got a lot of freinds you haven't met yet ! Mike , E-mail plumbfitter2000@yahoo.com


Member: K
Location:
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 08:25 PM

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Hi, I'm Karen, an alcoholic. I've been here before but not regularly. I have almost 8 mo's sober, and my sponsor tells me this is a dangerous period. I believe it because I priced some wine a couple of weeks ago, though I didn't buy it. I'm not comfortable about sharing in f2f meetings, and am here in my sponsor's suggestion (she got sober in here). I've been volunteered to chair a meeting next Friday (I'm away from home during the week), and I'm really nervous about that. Public speaking is a real fear of mine. I hope all of you are well, and I will check back in on a daily basis from now on. Thanks for being here.


Member: Karen P.
Location: Atla
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 08:25 PM

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Hi, I'm Karen, an alcoholic. I've been here before but not regularly. I have almost 8 mo's sober, and my sponsor tells me this is a dangerous period. I believe it because I priced some wine a couple of weeks ago, though I didn't buy it. I'm not comfortable about sharing in f2f meetings, and am here in my sponsor's suggestion (she got sober in here). I've been volunteered to chair a meeting next Friday (I'm away from home during the week), and I'm really nervous about that. Public speaking is a real fear of mine. I hope all of you are well, and I will check back in on a daily basis from now on. Thanks for being here.


Member: Karen P.
Location: Atlanta, GA
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 08:27 PM

Comments

I believe I posted twice by mistake. I apologize.


Member: Terry
Location: NJ
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 08:52 PM

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Hi, Terry alcoholic here, made it to two weeks and feel ok, but today it started getting really cold here in old NJ, and when started to approach (my worst time, the old cocktail hour), I started with the shakes, my legs felt like rubber and all I wanted to do was to crawl into a ball. The coldness inside my body was crying out for that warmth that only the ole booze would bring. Thanks to the Lord I only went for tea. Anybody want to fill me in on how long this stuff is going to go on? Thanks for reading this.


Member: Chris H.
Location: KS
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 09:33 PM

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Chris H. here again, still an alcoholic..Karen P., I'll just bet you'll do fine chairing the meeting. I'm a part of Nicotine Anonymous and with just three months clean tomorrow, I've been chairing online meetings for quite some time. You'll do fine...HP will be there for you, I just know it! I'm still waiting to hear from the letter I sent to an address at the bank in my small town for an AA group.....I have a strong feeling it doesn't exist, but if I can find ONE more person here, we can do this....right? I have a special person that I've connected with online and I think there are many of us out here just bouncing around without meetings or not ready to go to one just yet......thank you God for this site..


Member: Chris H.
Location: KS
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 09:39 PM

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Chris H. here again, still an alcoholic..Karen P., I'll just bet you'll do fine chairing the meeting. I'm a part of Nicotine Anonymous and with just three months clean tomorrow, I've been chairing online meetings for quite some time. You'll do fine...HP will be there for you, I just know it! I'm still waiting to hear from the letter I sent to an address at the bank in my small town for an AA group.....I have a strong feeling it doesn't exist, but if I can find ONE more person here, we can do this....right? I have a special person that I've connected with online and I think there are many of us out here just bouncing around without meetings or not ready to go to one just yet......thank you God for this site..


Member: Chris H.
Location: KS
Date: October 21, 2002
Time: 09:41 PM

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My apologies......I PROMISE I didn't send twice!! Okay.....who knows??? Chris


Member: SandyC
Location: Scotland
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 06:01 AM

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I'd just like to say to everyone who may be struggling that it is worth it. One thing that really helped me in the 'early days' was the Step 1 guide at http://www.sober.org/ Sitting down and doing a kind of balance sheet on drinking/not drinking always led me to the conclusion that not drinking today was by far and away the best option even when every cell in my body seemed to be screaming for a drink.


Member: SandyC
Location: Scotland
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 06:04 AM

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I'd just like to say to everyone who may be struggling that it is worth it. One thing that really helped me in the 'early days' was the Step 1 guide at http://www.sober.org/ Sitting down and doing a kind of balance sheet on drinking/not drinking always led me to the conclusion that not drinking today was by far and away the best option even when every cell in my body seemed to be screaming for a drink.


Member: Mel
Location: Atlanta
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 09:50 AM

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Hi all Mel here alkie and addict. I am a regular on the Coffee Pot and haven't came here very often, but thought I would say something about "into action"....in my experience that is when the 3rd step starts. Up until then all we have to do is think...think we are an alcoholic and then think there is a Higher Power of some sort. The 3rd step is when we first start doing something about it...we get into action. We made a decision to turn our wills and lives over to our HP. Most days I still have to remember to do that often through out my day. I take back my will and then turn it over again. It is something I have to think about and remind myself to do every day... that is how this program works. Anyway, I was wondering if anyone else had some experiences they would like to share about the 3rd step. Much love and light, Mel


Member: Dave B
Location: The Colony, Tx
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 10:55 AM

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'Lo all, my name's Dave and I'm an equal opportunity abuser.I been clean n sober since 3/13/02. A friend in the program told me about this site so I decided to check it out. I'm encouraged by what I see.I've discovered that when I allow it or ask, my Higher Power is more than capable of relieving my obsession to drink or use. Others in the program out here in The Colony,Tx strongly suggested 90 meetings in 90 days, getting a sponsor n working the steps with 'em, getting a bigbook n other liturature and actually REAd it, and daily prayers. Sonova***** if it didn't actually work! I detoxed the hard way, at home, but I found that massive quantities of chocolate goes quite far for relieving the "shakes". I went thru a couple pounds of kisses a day for about a week.After 90 in 90, I scalled down to 3 a week, then 2, then 1 a week. I got real complacent in my program, wasn't reading lits or calling my sponsor, I even stopped praying for a bit. The obsession came back and scared my by it's intensity. I was having drunk dreams n every time I drove past a liquor store those neon signs would just becon me. Fortunatly I renewed my program with a newfound resolve n I've been good since. At present, my only vices are cigarettes, Pepsi n Red Meat(I figure my arteries are, at present, the consistancy of uncooked macaroni). But for those of you fresh in the program, my advice to you is to keep coming back, it really does work. Even if you do slip it's OKAY,you can still come back. We alkies are a forgiving and understanding lot, we won't kick you out or give you a failing grade."We claim spiritual progress, not spiritual perfection".Nuff said,Dave B,aka Spideyfreek


Member: Holly S
Location: bloomfield hills, mi
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 11:08 AM

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Hi Holly, here, alcoholic. Great topic. I feel that I need to get more active in my program. I have been attending f2f meetings and cannont explain the how amazing the fellowship has been. Don't get me wrong, not everyone who has sobriety is working the program, but in find the few who are, WOW, the fellowship things is amazing. It's a gift that far superceeds anything I've ever been given in my life. The results of this fellowship are amazing and to help someone else is trully the road to recovery. I cannot urge all of us enough to become involved and help at a meeting - offer to greet, make coffee...you never know. I found so many wonderful friends in this program that won't give up on me, that trully will love me until I love myself. they make me feel safe, okay with sharing. I'm frightened of this world that we live in. I'm so vulnerable that pretty much anything could trigger me into relapse - no offences, but MEN are a big one. I'm learning to let go and trust God for everything. suggestion to anyone - read a book called "God on a Harley" -- was very insightful to me. Anyway, today, I feel pretty strong...won't guarantee you anymore than that. Thanks for everyone being her for me and for your postings. I don't post everyday, but I do "listen". Peace and Love, Holly


Member: Sarah
Location: NW USA
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 11:52 AM

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Hi, I am Sarah and I am a recovering alcoholic. Welcome, newcomers. Getting active, great topic for a early soberity meeting. Getting active(for me) is all about changing my practicing alcoholic Experience, Strength and Hope ... into ... my recovering alcoholic Experience, Strength and Hope. This has become possible with the program of Alcoholic Anonymous. Each of the above shares have given suggestions of the actions I can take ... starting with 'Brandy(alcoholic idenity)' getting into action becoming Linda G.(sober idenity) ... great action! ... Continuing with each of the above shares. When I first entered the rooms of A.A. I saw myself as a practicing alcoholic but the other members of A.A. saw me as potential recovering alcoholic. The program of A.A. has given a gift of their recovering alcoholic Experience, Strength and Hope, a gift of Twelve Steps and Twelve Tradions(teaching spiritual principles of sober living) and a gift of a "Healing Power" rather than a 'drunken power'. Each day the A.A. program has taught me the how of 'getting active' in becoming a recovering alcoholic. One day at a time I 'get into action'. Thanks ... one and all.


Member: DaveP
Location: PA
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 01:46 PM

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hi guys, DaveP here from Pa... To all those who hesitate or are scared of the old f2f, let me just relate my recent experience. several years ago i went to my first meeting.. It felt so heavy and uncomfortable, and didn't really feel i fit in. Also , being as i'm a well known professional in town , the thought of seeing people i know is terrifying. So i didn't go back, and of course kept drinking. Went to another meeting a month ago, and had a similar experience. But having spent a miserable weekend at the bottom of the bottle once again , i decided to check out another meeting at a different place. This time, i think i've got it right. There were lots of guys , just like me, with stories just like mine, who have now been sober for many years. But the best part was that all i had to do was show up, and tell a couple of folks i was new. Of course everyone could tell i was , as this is a group of veteran AA guys....but man,at LEAST six guys came up to me shook my hand, made me feel really welcome, and offered me phone numbers, meeting schedules, and "keep coming back" encouragement.. I really went home feeling that this was the place for me to get sober.i woke up today feeling like a human being, not hung over and miserable like so many other mornings before. I am staying sober today, and may even look for another meeting to try tonite, but i'll definitely be back next week to this meeting. I guess my point is, we've gotta keep trying, keep working at this , keep looking for and asking for the help that's out there including this site. Thanks for listening, thanks for sharing, i'll go for day two today, and i'll keep in touch.


Member: Bill P.
Location: Michigan
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 02:33 PM

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Hi all, Bill P. here - Flaming Alcoholic. Dave B - Welcome to the site! Congrats on 7+ months sober! My sobriety date is 5/10/02, so I know how much better it gets too. Every morning I thank God for this program and I humbly ask him to help me stay sober just for today. It's the only day that counts. For so many years I didn't have a clue about living in today. I spent a lot of time pissed off about the past and fearful of the future. Today, by the grace of God and this program, I don't have to do that anymore. Thanks for coming in and I hope you keep coming back. This site is a great addition to my regular F2F meetings. Peace and love to all.


Member: Kathy D
Location: AM, OH
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 04:20 PM

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Hi! I'm Kathy and I am an alcoholic. When I first came to AA "getting active" was as simple (simple not easy) as calling my sponsor, begin working the steps, asking for rides to meetings since I couldn't drive (DUI), and reading something the chairperson asked me to read (did okay except wouldn't read Traditions...anonomity to hard to say). Now I have taken baby steps and cannot only drive myself to meetings but sometimes ride someone else. I can also read anything the chairperson asks me to read and can even share if I feel like I have something to contribute to the meeting. I have made coffee for meetings and even chaired a few times. Once you just start getting active you can see how much more you can do.


Member: Karen P.
Location: Atlanta, GA
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 08:16 PM

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Hi, I'm Karen, alcoholic. I had a rough night and morning, but binged on ice cream instead of wine. Woke up as if I had a hangover anyway, and had trouble hauling it out of bed and getting to work. But I did make it and I'm better. Thanks Mel, for your comments. Also to others for cheering me on in my new chairperson role. I'm still scared, but it helps to have your support.


Member: FC
Location: CA
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 09:33 PM

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Hey to all, Haven't posted in a few day, but still trying to keep up with all the posts. I just started AA about 20 days ago and can honestly say I'm only 5 days sober, go figure. Getting active, good topic, I was'nt sure what that detailed untill now. I go to meetings every single day and my sponser made me right out a list of my daily meetings and stick them on my frig, it helps me not to forget. She also had me committ more to meetings other then just sitting there. I thought how is this going to help me, making coffee for people or cleaning up after the meetings. But it does, I feel more part of the meetings. So I can see what my sponser is doing to me, Getting me Active. Just listen to your sponser or people at the meeting that have time in sobriety, they seem to know what to do with people like me even if I don't understand in the beginning, eventually I'll get it. Anyways, congrats to everyone who has'nt drank today and keep coming back. This site really helps daily seeing other people's perspectives. Hell, I would'nt have even made my first meeting if I did'nt have this site. So good night to all!!!


Member: Chris H.
Location: KS
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 09:50 PM

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Hi, Chris, alcoholic here. FC...keep going to those meetings. You're going to get there. There are many things we can do to be active and right now, for me, it's mainly reading and learning about this disease and this program. I'm going to string together a few 24's one of these days, then watch out! There will be no stopping me. Have a peaceful evening all.


Member: Opal H
Location: Michigan
Date: October 22, 2002
Time: 09:50 PM

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Great posts! To our newcomers, keep coming back! Even if you have been around the program for longer than your actual sobriety. We are a very welcoming group, all with the same disease of alcoholism and we sink or swim together. Until I got 'active' I couldn't stay sober. I tried every 'softer, easier way' you could think of, all but getting my butt to a f2f AA meeting. I was scared to death, thinking I was walking into a fate worse than death. Actually I walked back into my life with the help of the people in AA and God. The first step is the hardest, then it gets easier, I promise. If you can, get to a f2f meeting. If there are none around, keep coming back here please. Love and God's blessings all.


Member: FC
Location: CA
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 01:20 AM

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Hell, I think I have seen everything now, Have to share something tonight that blew my mind! Went to a meeting tonight, where my sponser said she would meet me, she brang a friend of hers that is 20 years sober. She just had major surgery that same day and attended the meeting that night. You can tell she was in so much pain and should probaly be in bed resting, but she wanted to be there for newcomers like myself, to tell that we can get thru anything and live a sober life, even if it hurts like hell. I was actually contiplating going tonight, just cause I did'nt feel like it. And this women put me to shame tonight, going to a meeting in her condition. Just when we think to ourselves, what good is this going to do? It just might help someone else, I guess thats the part were we have to get to not only think of ourselves, but how it will help others! (Reality check for me), If she can do that after major surgery, I guess I should just stop now complaining and do the action! I feel so selfish of my thinking right now, I have to learn to get out of this "Stinking Thinking", and try to open my eyes and see the more postive things around me, other then my poor pity potty self. Anyways, thought I would share that, Tonight made me see a little bit more of the light. I only did that getting to a F2F meeting and sharing the emotion. Its quite different if you just read it. Anyways, thanks for listening.Peace out!!!!


Member: Steve L
Location: IN
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 10:50 AM

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Hi, I'm Steve, a recovering alky. I've been sober a few 24 hours through alot of help from AA and God. Thinking about going to the noon meeting but have a bad cold, so glad this site is here. After we've been sober awhile it is good to remember the first few days with the help of newcomers. The yellow book called Living Sober helped me alot in early sobriety. You can get it at local AA offices or probably even on the net at recovery bookstores. It has very practical suggestions about what to say at a party, etc. Thanks again for the reminder of early sobriety, so I can stay sober another day like you.


Member: Phil A
Location: Geordieland UK
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 10:54 AM

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Hi All Linda G, theres no need to apologise for using the name Brandy unless of course ya feel uncomfortable about it. It's a common name. Its good to hear ya got through the bbq. "The main problem of the alcoholic centres in the mind". I agree with whoever it was who posted about f2f meetings although is by no means impossible to get or stay sober soley using the internet imho. I had a mask for every occassion whilst drinking, on the net that mask can be used too much, too often and pulled on at any time. f2f is where the real recovery is and where the warmth and the welcomes shine through. Graig, I hope your still with us and everything is going ok with ya. Getting Active was and still is an important part of sobriety for me, if nothing changes nothing changes and this is a program of action. Getting active means looking after yourself, doing the next right thing, service work and helping others thus helping yourself. A man is unthinking if he thinks just not drinking is enough. GeordieWally@aol.com


Member: Bob B
Location: Vanderbilt,Mi
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 11:13 AM

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Hi all, Bob here, alcoholic. Active=?? For me it means to get involved with life...my own first thru the 12 steps and not just talking about them but actually taking them so I can know me and then I will know you. I wlll know what others need so I too can sponsor and I will know what works and what doesn't. It means I can now "relate" to sober people, sober ideas and sober principles. I will have something to give which will attract others too me giving me many opportunities to share me and what I know about sobriety. I will be invited out to functions in AA as well as in "normal" society where I can get as "involved" as my sobriety allows. Keep doing what the program suggests and watch the winners....the ones with genuine smiles and genuine sharings and and genuine success. Follow until you learn to lead. It works. AA never fails. Ever.


Member: Marsha L.
Location: Guam
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 02:50 PM

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Hi, I'm Marsha. I've been sober now for 2 years. The rain of activity that I enjoy has much to do with my limits of sobriety. I feel quelled to observe a monumental "lift" when I get my heart going. But the day-to-day process is hard to involve myself in. With a few crutches, I can keep myself in the swing. How does activity fullfill all the yearnings? I don't know how, but I do know why, and it softens my heart.


Member: may s
Location:
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 04:37 PM

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hi, i'm may and had my first f2f today. gotta' tell you guys it was absolutely horrible. meeting was in a terrible old dump of a building, everyone there except me was smoking, and lots of them. lots of cussing. i stayed for my hour but couldn't wait to get out as fast as i could. all of the people were very friendly but gotta say it was a bad experience. not casting any stones....just wanting some feedback.


Member: FC
Location: CA
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 05:48 PM

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(((May S.))) Believe me all meetings are not like that. I don't know exactly were you are at, but the meetings I go to are full of comfort and willigness. If you did not like that meeting, go to another. But Please don't quit. Hang in there, The program of AA is a "We" program, we can't do it ourselves, so let others help us!!! If you are new here there is a website of all meetings in the u.s.. Thanks for sharing and keep coming back. AA Meeting Resources: http://www.soberplace.com Anyways, good luck to you and keep coming back!!! Peace out!!!


Member: Chris H.
Location: KS
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 06:37 PM

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Chris, alcoholic here. May, I'm so sorry you had a bad experience at your first f2f meetings. I'm with FC...if you have others you can attend, check them all out till you find a group of people you're comfortable with. I have some wonderful news to share. A new online AA buddy worked his tail off using sources I was unaware of and may just have found me a meeting in my small town. I'll be finding out tomorrow night at 8:00. What a blessing it will be and I hope it turns out better than you're experience May! It's definitely the only one around and is just once a week. I'll let you all know how it goes.


Member: Corinne B.
Location: CA
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 07:28 PM

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To ((Linda)) in Toronto, and anyone else reading who might be thinking they can put into practice the Program of AA's 12 Steps on their own, as a sort of "self-help program": What about Step 12? Especially the portion which reads "we tried to carry this message to other alcoholics" ... Now, I'm not saying you cannot help other alkies in a setting other than an AA meeting, but the motive behind wanting to get sober on one's own usually involves not wanting to divulge to anyone else in your life that you have a drinking problem. Well, guess what? It might not come as a big shock for you to hear that, often-times, we Alkies are the last to find out or admit that we've got a problem with alcohol consumption. Our friends, colleagues and loved-ones usually know long before we find our way to the shore, out of the "De Nile River" (Denial). Now, I'm not saying you have to go shouting you're an Alkie from the rooftops once you start sobering up, but generally to effectuate real life-altering change, we need to be accountable to someone. A group of other people who share the same shortcomings is usually a whole lot more comfortable for us in the beginning we find. Plus, we get to hear other people's first-hand experiences of what got them through those first 30-60-90 days and so on. Now, having said that, I didn't go through any special programs to stop smoking ciggies or stop using heroin, either, but I'd stopped using those things at a much younger age, and wasn't as thoroughly addicted to them as I was King Alcohol. All I know is that in my own case, this was the easier, softer way. I had to replace the drinking with something, and if I had not have changed my playmates and playgrounds by finding new, sober friends in AA meetings, I doubt I'd've lasted very long. After 6 years sober, I thought I could do it on my own, or that I didn't need the mtgs anymore, and I got drunk not long thereafter, staying out there drinking another 6 1/2 years. Naw, I know first-hand I can't do this on my own. Not the way I like to be such a social butterfly and all :o) *g.


Member: Karen P.
Location: Atlanta, GA
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 07:41 PM

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Hi, Karen, alcoholic. May, my first f2f meeting was a bummer too, and when went to some out of town where my brother lives, they were rather depressing. Smoking, dumpy building, retarded person going on and on as chairperson. However, I have a home group that I love very much. No smoking, bright room, and loving companionship. I feel at home there for real, even though I'm still afraid of speaking out and sharing. Hope you keep checking out meetings till you find one you are comfortable with. I'm feeling better. Think I'ved been a little depressed, and that put me at risk for drinking. I didn't, but I sure thought about it. Again, I was pushed into chairing my first meetin on Friday night. I'm nervous about it. It's a big meeting and I'm scared of talking in front of people. I suppose I'll get over it. Thanks again for being here. Be back next week and will let you know how the meeting went.


Member: Opal H
Location: Michigan
Date: October 23, 2002
Time: 08:08 PM

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Opal, alcoholic here. (Chris H.) so glad there is a meeting you can try close to you!! (May) Meetings are different everywhere because they are made up of different people. Keep trying please until you find one that is right for you. I have been sober for a few 24 hours and have been to alot of meetings. There is only one I would call my favorite meeting. Just keep looking til you find what 'fits' you, just keep going. If nothing changes in your life, then nothing changes..........the hangovers, rejection, loss of love etc. God Bless.


Member: J-Rae
Location: N.D.
Date: October 24, 2002
Time: 01:51 AM

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Getting active, even by just getting to a meeting (that's a great start) is what has helped me stay sober, along with everything else stated in the Big Book, and the 12 x 12, that neat little yellow book "Living Sober", and just keep on keeping on wanting to stay sober. May, sorry to hear of you bummer of a first face to face meeting. Look around, there may be a non-smoking meeting where you are, too. The above suggestions were great. Staying active keeps me out of myself. It may just be washing coffee cups, finding a broom and using it, or some really small thing, but for me, staying active is really important to my sobriety. Someone was in those rooms of AA when I came there, and not by coincidence, in my opinion, and shared with me, gave me a smile, told me to keep coming back, etc. That might not seem like a lot of action, but it took suiting up and showing up for them to be there for me, and even if that's ALL I can do for a day, it may, in turn, help someone else along the line. Keep Coming Back. We need you, and it works.


Member: Bonnie 5/30/80
Location: God's Love
Date: October 24, 2002
Time: 02:32 AM

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Hi extended family, bonnie/alcoholic here (((ROOM-HUG)))) I love it, a new room at staying cyber,man, new sobriety sucks i remember that well, wanted to run out of rooms but stayed till the meetings ended.Thank God I did. I was sicker than most. they said 90 meetings in 90 days but i went to at least one meeting a day for the first 5 yrs then cut down to 6 days a wk. did that for many yrs. so hang in there if you don't like them at first. shop around for one that fits you though. i just lucked out i guess. found a hall where i went every day and liked/loved most of the people there. it became my second home, this site has that feeling too. been coming here for yrs. didnt get to read everyones post but ((brandy)) when i was new i had this job that took me all over the US and stayed in hotels with mini bars in the room and had many dinners and lunches where wine was automaticly served. I'd ask the waiter to take it away and if asked why I'd just say that I was allergic to alcohol and didn't want to take a chance of drinking it. If asked by family or friends, I'd tell them the same only I'd let them know that I just found out. You'll be surprized at how many people just don't care if you drink or not. The only ones that might care are those who feel self conscious about their own drinking. They probably have this disease also. those that don't drink wont care or will be happy you're not. All that are new to this site or AA **Welcome Home** you are in for a treat, get to face to face meetings also. get a sponsor, go to 90 meetings in 90 days and if you decide you don't like it your misery will cheerfully be refunded and we will pray for your return. if you have this disease you cannot do it by yourself, its impossible. thought I was different, thought i could beat it many times but i always went back out. I haven't had to have a drink drug or pill since i came into the rooms of AA over 22 yrs ago. you never have to drink or use again and you are in for the ride of your life. I've had so many firsts, everything was new, you are in for so many wonderful feelings, don't quit 5 minutes before your miracle happens. hang in there dear hearts. Dear God please bless all who venture here. Love and hugs, bon


Member: Marsha L.
Location: Guam
Date: October 24, 2002
Time: 02:44 AM

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Preciousness is essential to recovery, and activeness is essential to preciousness. Why wait it out, without knowing the consequences? I feel a certain anxiety about active living, but the hurt feelings I had while in denial are not as profound as I thought. "Policing the potential" is an important slogan for me, and I think it pertains to the active learning in all alcoholics. Contain your feelings of abandonment and frustration with just "being all five". When you lose focus on active learning, you lose hope for the loss. Instinct will always pave the way up the glory roster.


Member: MikeF
Location: CA
Date: October 24, 2002
Time: 03:25 PM

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MikeF here - Frankly, most of you are not going to like me saying this, but I find f2f meetings so depressing and sad that the first thing I want is to get out of there and go to a bar. I do SO much better just staying at home, AVOIDING meetings and telling myself "just don't drink" and keeping my elbow straight. IMHO, there is NO 'Higher Power." That's B.S....Only *I* have TOTAL control over my own body and mind and it's my own lack of fortitude that allows me to pick up that first drink. Most of us alcoholics are simply hypoglycimics, (excuse spelling) simple sugar addicts. Get your sugar consumption under control and once you stop riding the sugar 'roller coaster' you'll be able to have a couple of drinks and then say "no more for now, thanks," and get your habit under control. It's a proven medical fact. And if you say that you've had a 'sugar test' by your Doctor, was it a FULL gluclose tolerance test, where you peed in a bottle ever half hour for four hours in the Doctor's waiting room? Or was it just a 'finger prick?' A finger prick test won't give you accurate results, you need the full blood panel administered by an M.D. not some group of people at a meeting getting their sugar fix from coffee and doughnuts instead of booze.


Member: Marsha L.
Location: Guam
Date: October 24, 2002
Time: 03:56 PM

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Mike F., take control of your sugar. Losing oneself to a painful medical problem can be like saying to oneself, "Am I a villain?" Sometimes a few crutches might help, but remember to face your challenge with might and force. I've been sober for 5 years, but I know that crutches might help (they've helped me.) Learn to tame your body's instincts.


Member: DaveP
Location: PA
Date: October 24, 2002
Time: 04:17 PM

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hey folks, daveP, alcoholic here. i almost feel like i don't deserve to post here because , well, lets just say i've had lots of false starts with this sobriety deal. May, my first two meetings were dismal also. but the hangovers were more dismal. finally found a meeting of people that were more like me, and i'll be back to that one. Also , i'm gonna keep trying different meetings, cause i really want to try to do the 90/90 thing. Also, the guys at the meeting that i finally liked told me about another meeting in the area that is excellent, and fun. Boy if i could have fun and stop drinkin' at the same time....cool.


Member: Jeanie D.
Location: New York
Date: October 24, 2002
Time: 06:47 PM

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Hey folks, I'm Jeanie D. Hey, is it just me, or is it cold enough to hang meat in here? Don't get me started........


Member: Opal
Location: Michigan
Date: October 24, 2002
Time: 09:26 PM

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Opal here, grateful recovering alcoholic. Dave P., good for you on finding a meeting out there that works! Keep coming back is what we say at meetings, because those of us with a few 24 hours know that is what works. Eventually you will laugh and have fun like the rest of the so called normal people out there, and all while sober! Mike F., statistically your method DOES NOT WORK. Not looking to start an argument but these is where people come early in sobriety and I feel it is wrong to point them the wrong way. AA meetings are what help thousands of us around the world to get sober and stay that way. You will hear at the meetings how so many tried, but couldn't maintain sobriety on their own without AA. There are no world wide groups of groups that can just stop on their own because it doesn't work. If you are new here, stay with the "winners", the ones who have a few 24 hours and know the way to help you along. AA is a we program, we are in this together. Those of us who have been given this miracle of sobriety have to pass it on, help others to achieve the same. If we don't give it away, we cannot keep it. Keep coming back, it works if you work it. Love to all and God bless.


Member: Concerned
Location: MI
Date: October 24, 2002
Time: 09:50 PM

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Mike F. This is an AA website. The rules allow for difference of opinion in how we work our program, but you clearly hold our program in distain. If you cannot follow our guidelines, please do not post here. Good luck with the path you have chosen, although I fear it will not take you anywhere near contented, extended sobriety. Surrender to your higher power, whatever you choose to call it, and this program are the way out of alcoholic hell. God bless all.


Member: Mark W.
Location: St. Louis
Date: October 24, 2002
Time: 11:42 PM

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Mike F. I am not a doctor, and I wouldn't believe you if you said you are. What I do know is that what you have professed is not good information. Newcomers here, AA worked for me. It has every day since I decided to throw myself into the program. It has been years. Find just ten people that tried Mike F's way. I think you may find some of them on the coffee pot, BUT the ones there most likely will tell the truth, and that is that they sobered up only after the change of attitude that Mike has not had. Mike, there is hope for you too. Don't fret, unlike so many other ways to sober up, ours works, AND can last a lifetime, and WILL be there when or if you get to a point where you feel a need to feel better. Newcomers like May above, you may just find a meeting that you do not like. It happens. I feel that the reason one hears the 90 meetings in 90 days so often in AA is that anyone who does try that method, usually finds a meeting that is just right for them. Good place to join a home group! By the way, I don't know a single person that went to ninty meetings in ninty days that did not stick around. Perhaps a good idea after all? Sincerely, Mark W. LMW007@aol.com


Member: Liz H
Location: NW USA
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 12:52 AM

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I a Liz, member, with a newbie question: I have heard about "drinking dreams." I had a few of these earlier on (have only been sober abouyt 6weeks and the dreams started like rigtht away) where I was dismayed to find myself with a half-empty beer in my hand. IS this what drinking dreams or drunlk dreams are?


Member: Ron G.
Location: N.S.,Canada
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 12:57 AM

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This is my first time visiting web site. I have been gratefully sober for 8 1/2 months and I still have alot to learn but one thing I'm sure of is that the program works. Mike F. revisit the first step and please be honest with yourself. Mike,you may not have a Higher Power but I do,and tonight I'll pray to Him to help you. God Bless.


Member: Gage
Location: LA
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 01:13 AM

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I'm Gage and I am an alcoholic. I could eat twenty Hershey bars before I took a drink and the same thing that has always happened to me when I've taken a drink would happen again. The moment I felt that warm euphoric feeling oozing through my body and my brain, everything that was ever important to me, everyone and everything I love in this world, every friendship I cherish, every commitment I've sworn to honor, and everything that's anything would fly right the fuck out the window. And all in the world that would be important to me would be to keep that feeling of euphoria going for as long as I could. I would drink until I passed out. When I came to, I would be filled to the brim with fear, guilt, and self-loathing. I'd swear on everything that is holy that I'd never let it happen again. And by noon the next day, I'd be craving a drink. I could eat all the sugar I wanted then and it might help a little with the shakes, but it wouldn't take the craving for alcohol away. This is not speculation on my part. I went three years without a drink once. Then, I took a drink. It took me sixteen years after that to get sober again. Sugar didn't help. AA did.


Member: Tami R
Location: NH
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 06:27 AM

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Good day all. Its Friday and I am so looking forward to snuggling with my dog, hot chocolate and a good movie......


Member: Bill P.
Location: Michigan
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 11:00 AM

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Bill P. here, alcoholic (and fully accept it). Mike F. - What's eating you man? You posted last week just before the weekend and I checked in over the weekend to see how you were doing. I'm not a doctor either, but I'm not following your logic on the sugar thing. Alcoholism is a serious disease that can only be dealt with by stopping the drink. I'm not here to piss you off, but I suggest that if you have the desire to stop drinking, go back to steps 1 and 2. Without those steps, it will be a hard road for you to stay sober. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best. Don't forget that "WE" will be here when you need us. Peace.


Member: Hannah K.
Location: Pacific Northwest
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 11:27 AM

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Dear Mike, you are woefully and dangerously misinformed about the disease of alcoholism. I can appreciate that you don't like meetings, many of us felt the same way until our condition left us with no other alternatives. But, please, this of all places is the wrong place to come with information that is simply wrong. The person who believes what you wrote may die as a result. It's simply not a matter of willpower. I'm sober as a result of the programme of AA. Hannah, an alcoholic.


Member: Paul R
Location: Michigan
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 11:31 AM

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Greetings all ! Paul R. here. Alcoholic ! 1st time posting here. I would like to just express a thank you to everyone for the wonderful posts. They are a great building block for being able to say thanks to my HP at the end of this 24 hrs.


Member: One alcoholic to another...
Location:
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 11:56 AM

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Heres a piece of info for ya, Mike. You don't go drinking because the meetings make you depressed and sad, you go drinking because you are an alcoholic.


Member: Marsha L.
Location: Guam
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 01:54 PM

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Sugar cravings are only the start in a long process. The other cravings will meld in. Long-term therapy is the goal. Perhaps a solid look at the consequences is in line, but only if you make it special. Try melding the line between sugar and alcohol. Maybe that will help. I know it helps me!


Member: me
Location: confusion
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 01:54 PM

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Hi all ! For reasons that don't involve alcohol, my marriage is quickly going down the tubes. I know today I WILL NOT DRINK OVER IT ! I also know on the other side of this obstacle is a lesson I obviously need to learn. But I will be honest in saying that 'Letting Go And Letting GOD' doesnt make me feel much better at this time. (if HE wanted it, I wouldnt be living it :) --- just trying to find some humor in it) Thanx for letting me vent


Member: Bill P.
Location: Michigan
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 03:26 PM

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Welcome Paul R.! Glad you're here and keep coming back. I found this site within a few days of entering AA and now, by the grace of God, I'm 5 1/2 months sober. This site is not a replacement for F2F (face to face) meetings, but I've found it's a nice place to check in and get good tidbits about this disease that wants to kill us. Again, welcome and peace to you. Thanks to everyone for another sober day.


Member: Chris H.(Different above CHris H.
Location: Fla.
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 06:30 PM

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I'm Chris--I'm an alcoholic/ addict---Action is a great topic for me today. ..Because I am normally a procrastinator...I generally stay in indecision which gets me no where. IT is said that this is a program of action. That is always so good for me to hear, because it gets me out of my stagnation.. and into doing SOMETHING>>. My sponsor says that if you can't move forward , at least move sideways...The biggest action that I need to do is to remember to always keep working on the steps...It is so easy to try to breeze through , but that only gets me into trouble...I must alwys remember that my sobriety come first...above everything,,, because without it I have nothing...


Member: Opal
Location: MI
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 07:54 PM

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Opal, alcoholic here. Liz H. I had 'drinking dreams' right from the very start. The terrible, terrible remorse I felt when I woke up before I could tell if it really happened or was really a dream was devastating. Then a tremendous relief to know it was just a dream. Some people, myself included, think these dreams help keep us sober with a little peek into what the morning after would be like if we picked up again. Hope that helps, love to all


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Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 10:22 PM

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Member: DaveP
Location: Pa
Date: October 25, 2002
Time: 10:30 PM

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hey guys , daveP, alcoholic checking back. I'll tell you all something,,I WISH Mike were right. If it were as simple as will power or hypoglycemia that gives me this disease, i think i would have been cured ten years ago instead of continuing to struggle. If i told you I were a doctor you wouldn't believe me so i wont bother, but i will tell you this.. When a doctor treats someone who is sick, he goes with the methods that have been shown over and over again to work...If AA works, then count me in. thanks for my third day of sobriety...i'll be back


Member: Mark W.
Location: St. Louis
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 08:39 AM

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DaveP, I'm breaking the rules writing this, but feel compelled. You will make it if you stay on track as you are now. As one who kept drinking after seeing both parents at the terrible end of their lives, caused by alcohol, I can tell you that whatever works for a person is what it takes. Mark W. LMW007@aol.com


Member: Richard S
Location: NH
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 11:43 AM

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I'm on day 25 without a drink and without f2f meetings. I know in my head and in my heart that I can't take that first drink. The same thing with smoking. The first time that I quit smoking I thought I had it licked. But one day my friend offered me a cigar to celebrate his newborn son and from that moment on I was back on 2 packs a day. It took me a while to quit smoking again. The lesson I learned from that experience is that I can't take that first cigarette. So far, this lesson is helping me with alcohol.


Member: Kelly M
Location: New Hampshire
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 02:38 PM

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Hi All, I'm Kelly an Alcoholic. On staying active I have something to share. I will have my 30 days next Wednesday and will proudly accept my medallion. I will have 30 days of my goal of 90/90 so I will be 1/3rd there! I'm back in AA after 6 years back out and grateful to be back. I'm working the program totally different this time. Not my way but Bill W's way. Don't knock something that works with a proven success rate. I have a cancer that totally consumed my life and was killing me. I surrendered totally this time and AA is my Chemo/medicine. I'm working the program and the steps daily until I get it this time. I go to meetings 1-2 a day and am always trying new ones. I'm talking to people, getting numbers, hanging with the winners and putting as much time into AA as I put into my drinking. Well almost, I was drunk 12 hours a day the last 2 years... E-gad! Chasing that high that I never got anymore. Watching my once nice body deteriate, killing myself slowly with my own hand. It is so different now. I respect myself again and feel healthier each day. I am working the first 3 steps each day until I get them this time. For me it is all about letting go of my selfish pride and surrendering totally. Calling a sponsor and asking for help instead of tring to do it all myself. Getting involved with others in the program and making new friends. If your new or coming back Welcome and always take it, "One day at a time". Lot's of great sobriety on these boards... Kelly


Member: Marsha L.
Location: Guam
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 05:57 PM

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Slogan worship is the key to all success. Why not try going nuts on this? With a few crutches, I can now say that I've passed the deadlines of hastiness, and a true blue year is ahead. As a 15-year drunk who has been sober now for five (with a few crutches), I know that the way is through 'tunnel vision'.


Member: anonymous alcoholic (DOS 12/12/90)
Location: 2689 Ridgecrest Drive
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 06:41 PM

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Hi. Getting Active. Well in a way I did 'get active' right from the start. At my very first meeting the table leader 'suggested' that I go to 60 meetings in 60 days. Did you ever hear of such a thing??? I have always heard '90 in 90'. The only thing I can figure is that my table leader took one look at me and thought to himself 'he may not make it 90, I'd better lower his sentence!' Anyway, I kept track of the meetings I attended and at the end of 90 days, I had been to 91 meetings. Why? Because I liked the meetings. I still like the meetings almost 12 years later. Seems like I ALWAYS hear something I need to hear at a meeting. So, that's how I 'got active' in AA, made a lot of meetings. I also washed some ash trays and stuff early on too. It wasn't until this month that I was actually elected to be chairman of my home group. It is quite an honor and I am loving it. It lasts 2 months. I've already decided that if asked I will decline to do it for the next 2 months because I believe in rotation, but I'll be happy to do it 4 months from now. Heck, I think I'm even ready to make coffee for my home group now. That's progress! Thanks.


Member: Opal
Location: MI
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 07:11 PM

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Hi, Opal alcoholic here. Dave P, Kelly M, Richard S, all of you new to sobriety are so inspiring! You are doing great! Finding this site is definately getting active, going to your first meeting, talking with other about the disease we share. If I may make a suggestion for something that helped me so much, if you don't own a copy of Alcoholics Anonymous I would highly recommend it. At my first f2f meeting someone gave me that book. I started reading it right away, but even though I continued to drink (I was a very, very hard headed dope) what I read I believe helped lead me to sobriety and understanding of my disease. Love and God's blessing to you all. Keep coming back!


Member: Marsha L.
Location: Guam
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 07:27 PM

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Slogan worship is the key to all success. Why not try going nuts on this? With a few crutches, I can now say that I've passed the deadlines of hastiness, and a true blue year is ahead. As a 15-year drunk who has been sober now for five (with a few crutches), I know that the way is through 'tunnel vision'.


Member: Chris H.
Location: KS
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 07:37 PM

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Chris H. (the Kansas girl) and mega alcoholic here. I blew my sobriety again last night. It was the last time I pray. When I mess up I do it big time and this time I smashed in the back fender of my car hitting something. I don't know what it was...but it was something that didn't give. My alcoholism is not caused by sugar cravings. It's a disease that is going to kill me if I don't get control of it and so that is what I intend to do. The meeting I was hoping to attend didn't exist in my town. I'm to the point where I may just have to accept driving an hour to get to one. I can't do that for 90 days but I'll fill in with online meetings, speaker tapes and such. This site has been a godsend for me as well. Hang in there with me. I need the "we" that is here.


Member: Ron G.
Location: N.S.,Canada
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 09:43 PM

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Hello all,Ron/alcoholic; Kris H. I live a good distance from most meetings in my area. A very wise man asked me one night:If you traveled the distance to get drunk,why would you not travel it to get sober? Kris'f2f meeting work,try hard to get there. Best of luck,we're pulling for you.


Member: Maia G.
Location: St. Louis,MO
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 10:05 PM

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Hi. I'm Maia, and I'm an alcoholic. This is my first time here. I'm so grateful for this site. All of the comments I've read have been helpful. I will have 30 days on Oct. 30 (God willing) I've been to a few f2f meetings and didn't care for them much. I do plan to go to different ones until I find some that I like. Thanks so much to everyone here.


Member: Coon
Location: Virginia
Date: October 26, 2002
Time: 10:38 PM

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I'm a little cranky today; it must be pms. Ladies, I get it so bad! I don't have periods, I have exclamation points! It really interferes with my sobriety....


Member: Dave
Location: pa
Date: October 27, 2002
Time: 12:22 AM

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Chris in KS, I'm pulling for you big time. maybe you can't do it for ninety days, but maybe you can find a once a week meeting that is within an hour driving distance, just to see the actual faces behind those of us who share this disease with you. I can tell you from personal experience , it makes a big difference. Meanwhile we'll all be here , waiting to help you , hoping you get the help you need, and, from a personal note, getting help from you. You can do it chris . You can't do it alone, , neither can we. We are all in this together , and WE are all here to help each other.